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10 things I learned from my first 200 daygame cold approaches

Progress is not an illusion; it happens, but it is slow and invariably disappointing.

— George Orwell

Over the last few months, I have been going out and doing daygame approaches. Here are the ten things I learned from my first 200 cold approaches:

  1. Direct approaches work the best
    • As I talked about in my About Me page, the first book I read when I got serious about cold approaching was Roosh’s Day Bang. In the book, Roosh recommends an indirect approach where you open with a question (he recommends different questions based on the environment), and then start chatting from there. When I started my 100 approach challenge, I decided to do direct openers in order to help with approach anxiety. What I discovered was that direct approaches were much more effective when I was able to handle my approach anxiety better and be more confident when opening. Whenever I would open indirect I would have trouble making a man to woman connection, and often times the girl would excuse herself and leave before I could get a chance to make a direct statement of interest. In fact, I found direct openers so effective that they are pretty much the only opener I use now that I have more confidence in my cold approaching skills. I also discovered the London Daygame Model after doing around 100 or so direct approaches, and have used it to refine my direct cold approaching method. If you haven’t approached direct, give it a shot – you will love how effective it is!
  2. You can approach women anywhere
    • When I first started doing cold approach, I picked a couple of spots that Roosh mentioned in Day Bang such as the mall and grocery store and tried approaching there. However, most of the guys that run the London Daygame Model approach exclusively on the street. There is one problem for me with that approach: there just isn’t a street here that gets enough foot traffic for me to have enough targets. When I lived in Europe (and when I go back to visit family now), there are plenty of spots downtown that are great for cold approaching. But here in America? Unless you live in a city like NYC/Chicago/LA, you will have to find other venues to approach. Don’t get me wrong – I have done street approaches when I go to popular spots downtown and still do it from time to time. However, I have found out that you can approach women pretty much anywhere during the day – the mall, grocery stores, department stores, the bookstore, you name it. Some of the spots I have found most successful for me are malls, outdoor malls, grocery stores (goldmine), and department stores. And if you live on a college campus, take advantage of it and approach all the hotties you see walking around!
  3. Daygame cold approaching is hard
    • Most guys meet women through their social circle. They also don’t hit on strange women unless they are at a bar or a club and have already had a few drinks with their buddies. At that point, everyone thinks they are a pickup artist and can seduce any women they want. But approach hot girls consistently while sober during the daytime, whenever they see a girl they like? Most guys have never or almost never done it. And you know what? After doing 200 daygame approaches, I know why. My first cold approaches were awkward. I had approach anxiety, I was nervous, my heart was beating fast, and my emotions were overwhelming me, making it harder to focus on actually making the approach fun and engaging for both of us. It took me a while to even decide to approach when I first started out, and I missed talking to so many girls just because of my approach anxiety. But it does get better with time. Daygame is super hard at first and that is why men either don’t try it, or try it and struggle so much that they quit almost right away. Here’s the reward of daygame if you stick with it, though – once you have done enough sets, you will be able to walk up to a woman anytime, anywhere and meet her confidently. Without needing a friend to introduce you, without needing alcohol, without needing anything except yourself. That’s pretty powerful!
  4. London Daygame Model works
    • After I had done about 100 approaches or so, I found out about the London Daygame Model. As I mentioned in my About Me page, I started off my approaches by following GoodLookingLoser’s guide to just walk up to girls, say they are cute and go with basic talk from there. However, I would frequently freeze after the opener and not be able to come up with anything on my feet, or be too passive and wait for the girl to say something before I continued. The London Daygame Model helped my approaches immensely because I could follow up my opener with a stack. Once I stacked on either her ethnicity, her clothes, or an assumption about her job, it was a lot easier to get the girl to say something about my stack, which would then make it easier to continue the conversation. The Model is also helpful for beginners, as it isn’t overly complicated, but it does give you a guide to follow so you aren’t trying to improvise and think on your feet too much while still dealing with a lot of approach anxiety.
  5. Body language, voice tonality and eye contact will make or break you
    • Many guys are obsessed with pickup lines. They worry about the perfect thing to say to the woman they like. I know because there were times in my life where I believed saying the right thing would increase my success with women. Well, you know what? Sure, a clever line here and there could help you make a better connection with a woman you have opened. However, if you are the type of guy to worry about what to say to a woman and needs a step by step guide, then your words are irrelevant. Why is that, you ask? Because if you are worried about your words, your body language is probably not up to par. You probably avoid strong eye contact as to not appear “creepy”. You most likely talk way too fast and that gives away how nervous you are. Humans as species evolved to be more honest with their non-verbals than with their verbals, and women are much better at reading body language than men are. So instead of worrying about what to say, instead focus on how to say it. Fixing your body language, voice tonality and eye contact won’t happen overnight, and it is worth it to focus on them one by one so you can make consistent progress. Take it from me: working on those three non-verbals has made a huge difference in my game and the responses I get.
  6. Women love being approached in a confident way
    • If you haven’t spent the last few years in a cave, you are probably aware that Western society is trying its best to label a man doing what evolution intended – talking to strange women he finds attractive – “creepy”. The infamous Gilette commercial has a guy saying “Not cool, bro!” as his buddy is about to talk to a beautiful woman walking down the street. There are even guys on Internet forums who have tried doing cold approaches, and for whatever reason find it creepy. You wanna know what my experience has been? The exact opposite. Out of 200 approaches, only one woman has used the word “creepy”, and she was right – looking back on it, I was still relatively new to cold approaching and made a few mistakes during the approach. I told her mistakes were made and moved on. The positive reactions, however, are orders of magnitude more. I have had girls thank me for approaching them many times, even if they weren’t interested. I had a girl who sad she has a boyfriend but found me sexy, and she sat there debating whether to give me her phone number. I have had girls light up and carry the conversation for a bit. I have had girls who said they were married, but said that was the best thing that ever happened to them that day. Here is my advice: get enough approaches so your confidence in your skills goes up, and your interactions with women during cold approaches will get much better, even with the women who are not interested in you. And for the love of God, if you think what you are doing is creepy, then you are probably making it creepy. Approach with confidence and enjoy what a difference it makes!
  7. Cold approaching helps in other areas of your life
    • Most guys talk to strange women for one reason: they find her attractive and wanna fuck her. That is perfectly normal and has happened to our species for centuries. But I have also noticed something ever since I started doing daygame consistently: once you put yourself out there and play the seduction game, it has many side benefits. Big presentation in front of people at work? It doesn’t scare you as much as it used to once you have approached a woman who didn’t even know you exist, given her a compliment, talked to her for a few minutes, then had her give you her number. As I say, once you have talked to enough women and tried to sell them your dick, selling yourself in front of coworkers suddenly becomes much easier. Talking to strangers at random is also easier. Your conversation skills are constantly getting better, because you need them to get better in order to have more success at cold approaching. You have cool, random and weird stories to tell your friends – some of the rejections I have gotten are pretty hilarious. Once you realize you can go up to a girl you find attractive and make something happen despite your approach anxiety, you realize you can do anything you set your mind to. And that feels liberating and gives you confidence!
  8. It’s a numbers game – to an extent
    • The beautiful thing about cold approaching is that it’s up to you to make things happen. Generally speaking, the more women you approach, the better your chances are of finding the women that are a good fit for you. That is why you often hear that it’s a numbers game. I agree to an extent – the more women you approach, the better you get at approaching, which leads to more success in the long run. However, there is a small caveat I like to point out – if a total cold approaching newbie and a famous pickup artist (let’s pick Roy Walker for our example) are about to approach the same girl, who do you think would have a better chance? It goes without saying that Roy would have better odds at banging her, so the better you get at approaching the higher your percentage is. But even for Roy and PUAs who are as successful or more successful as him, it’s still a numbers game (he keeps a spreadsheet detailing his approach number, how many contacts he has gotten, dates, lays, etc. – I admire the dedication!) No matter who you are, you have to play the numbers game, you just get better at it as you improve.
  9. Rejection is better than regret
    • When I first started approaching, I let many women I found cute walk by me into the ether forever because of my approach anxiety. I could have gotten to 100 approaches so much quicker if I had opened every cute girl I saw. Even on days when I approached super cute women, I still went home wondering what would have happened if I opened the hotties I didn’t talk to. That made me realize something: I spent much more mental energy on the women I didn’t approach than on the women I did approach and rejected me. Once you get rejected, your mind is at ease because you know you went for it. When you don’t approach, however, your mind will keep wondering what would have happened if you did. And that is much worse than taking that ego hit and getting rejected. Over the last 50 approaches or so, I got to the point where I approached pretty much every hot girl I saw, and that felt much better and did tons for my self-confidence. Never reject yourself, fellas – that is the girl’s job!
  10. There is no silver bullet
    • It is possible that some guys can start cold approaching, do it a handful of times, and get into a LTR with a girl they enjoy being around. However, just like witg anything else, game takes time and dedication to get good. Overcoming approach anxiety takes time. Learning how to stack on your direct opener takes time. Calibrating to the girl’s reaction takes time. Learning when and how to kino takes time. Learning to have interesting conversation with girls so they don’t ghost you once they give your their number takes time. Feeling comfortable escalating takes time. One by one, all of those pieces will fall into place eventually given you are dedicated to approaching and learning from your mistakes. However, there is no silver bullet – you have to do the work, accept where you are at the moment and work hard to get ti where you want to be. For me, I want to get to a point where I have the confidence that I am able to open any girl I find attractive anywhere – bar, club, store, beach, train, wherever – and know that my game is solid enough to make something happen if she has any attraction at all towards me. Here’s my final tip: focus on overcoming your sticking points, be persistent and patient, and you will see results that most guys only dream of!

Guest Post: Brown Daygamer’s Second Lay Report!

Introduction

I am excited to introduce the first ever guest post on my blog! It is somewhat fitting that it is by Brown Daygamer, as I had the pleasure to meet him when I was in NYC. I was impressed by his enthusiasm for daygame, and how much he enjoyed approaching and going after sets with a smile on his face. He is a guy with a great vibe, and it was great meeting him in person after we had talked on Twitter for a while before my trip to NYC. As you know if you follow him on Twitter, he recently got his second ever lay from daygame! He reached out to me asking if I could post his lay report on my blog as he doesn’t have one, and I was happy to oblige. Without further ado, I give you the juicy details below, in the words of the man himself (some formatting changes were made in the Midwest).

Brown Daygamer’s Lay Report

I want to share what I have been up to after my first lay from daygame all the way back in February 2020. As you may know, I got my first lay from daygame with a girl I approached in NYC in February 2020. Logistics wasn’t an issue as I pulled her back to her office straight from the first venue on a first date. My first lay came after about 120 lifetime approaches. After this lay I struggled a bit on getting some strong leads, I was getting phone numbers on and off but mostly they were flaking. Then COVID hit so I didn’t approach until May 2020. Then I started approaching again as restrictions in my state eased up. I should also note that I live in a suburb area so my only venues for daygame were parks, malls, and grocery shops. Majority of sets were in these venues, unless I traveled to NYC for some street game. I did more approaches in the past 3 -4 months during this summer than the approaches I did for little over 1 year since I learned daygame.  But why I want to bring this up to you is because I started doing close to 20-25 sets per week since the last 3 weeks before this new lay. I set this as a goal to get more volume and I know that game is played in the field. The field experience teaches you more than just reading theory. Although I do feel knowing the basic theory if daygame is important to be calibrated in the field. Since I don’t live in major tourist cities like NYC or London, I needed to get more sets in to see some results and also to evaluate my game. I saw significant improvement in my mindset, my game and the response I was getting from girls in the field after I started doing more sets per week. Before doing these many sets, I would over analyze my sets, texts, and interactions. By the 2nd week of approaching close to 25 sets per week, I was texting 4-5 girls at the same time, setting up multiple dates per week, of course I was not able to get every girl out on a date but it felt good to know I had option of texting multiple girls. For the first time in my life, I had 2 dates set up in a single week. Moving forward, I plan on keeping this as my goal to get at least 20 sets per week, I try to go out to game in my local mall at least 3 days per week then I do one off approaches when I go grocery shopping or running any errands. Also note that all of my sets since May 2020 have been with mask on unless it was outside in the park. 

OK, going back to the lay report. I went to my local mall on a Monday evening after work for my usual daygame session with a wing. The volume has been surprisingly good in the mall after COVID. Me and my wing had just finished approaching a hot Brazilian two set. The set was around 6-8 mins, I number closed the girl I was chatting with and the other girl declined number close from my wing. I felt good about this set but she replied to my feeler text and then never replied to my pings. As we were walking in the mall, I saw a cute girl rushing through us, she seemed to be in a hurry and had a pink jacket on with blonde hair. I let her pass by us and told my wing I gotta go approach this one. I stopped her and delivered my opener. She was caught off guard at first and was moving away as I was delivering my opener but then I stacked immediately on her pink jacket and she stopped. She didn’t give me much to work with after the stack she just said thank you, so I stacked again on her nationality and told her you look like you are from Poland. She said yes I am. Then I acknowledged the elephant in the room, I told her “You look nervous to talk to me right now”. She said “Yea I’ve never been approached like this before so I don’t know what to say”. To that I replied “OK, I know you are in a rush right now but some other time I would like to take you out for a drink. You look like you enjoy wine more than a beer.” She said “Yes, I like red wine”. So I number closed her, seeding the date that I know a nice place which serves good wine. She gave me her number and I continued my daygame session.

I sent her a text 2 hours later to which she responded positively, stating this only happens in movies and books not in real life. So I knew she was interested in this experience. Few texts back and forth and we agreed to meet on a Friday night.

First Date

I invited her to my regular venue that I take all my dates to near a college campus. There are many bars and restaurants there with a great vibe. Few minutes before the agreed time to meet, she texted me she may be 10 mins late as Uber is taking a long time to arrive. I was surprised to see that she was taking an Uber and not driving to the date venue as it was around 10 mins drive from where she lived and there are plenty of parking spaces near the bar. I thought OK if she has taken an Uber she plans to stay longer with me and possibly I can pull her. But of course I don’t have logistics to pull her so I thought I’ll see if I can pull her back to her place. Anyways back to the date, I ran a typical London style 2 venue date (thanks to Tom Torero for this date model). She was wearing a nice white crop top and jeans with heels on, had her make up and hair done very nicely as well. She looked even better than when I saw her in the mall. We sat on a bar stool side by side, typical chit chat for a few mins. She was a bit hesitant to my light touches in the first venue and her body language was leaning away from me. I bounced her to the second venue, I started talking about more fun topics, travels, adventures, parties, etc. She loosened up a bit but still her body language was moving away from me. I did more kino, hand holding, running my fingers through her hair etc. I attempted to kiss her but she declined, so I rolled back for a few mins. I went to the bathroom but before that I told her the classic Torero line “I am going to the bathroom but when I come back I am going to try to kiss you” to which she smiled and said NO. I came back from the bathroom and we chatted more for 30 mins with me initiating more kino and she was receptive. I seeded a pull back to hers noting that I have a nice bottle of wine in my car and I can show you some cool videos, to which she said yes.

I told her let’s get out of here and take a walk around the downtown. As we were walking I tried to hold her hand but she took her hand away after crossing the street, a few mins of walking I tried to kiss her 2nd time, she turned away her face. At this time we finished walking around and I offered to drop her off, seeding the wine and watching videos at her place again. She just complied and walked with me to the car. I parked in front of her house and told her OK let’s go up I have this bottle of wine. Then she hesitated and said no you can’t come up, I live with my parents. I tried to push again by saying let’s just have 1 drink and we’ll sneak in to which she replied no. I said well ok then I’ll see you next time. To which she replied, “yes if you text me and want to see me again”. I was kind of surprised by that I thought I made my intention clear that I like her but I think I came off as too playerish to her during the date with some DHV stories. I felt she wanted to make sure that I don’t just fuck her and dump her. That’s she probably didn’t kiss in date venue. I said “of course I want to see you again. I like your vibe and we should meet up again”. As soon as I finished my sentence, she grabbed me and started kissing me (with some tongue action as well). After 2 mins of making out, she said I’ll see you next time and got out of the car and I left. As soon as I reached home, I received a text from her “That was a nice evening, thank you”.

Second Date

I set up a 2nd with her exactly 1 week after the first date. She seemed eager over text to meet up again. I was debating between inviting her straight over to my place for drinks and a movie or take her to a bar then pull her back to my place. Note, my place meaning the Airbnb that I would rent out for 1 night to pull her back. I found a nice Airbnb near some bars and booked it for 1 night on the day of the date. To be on safe side and not escalate too much too soon, I invited her to a bar 10 mins near the Airbnb. She texted me 2 hours before the agreed time that she is stuck in the hair salon and may be late. So we postponed the date to an hour later than our decided time. I went to my Airbnb to set up a wine bottle, put down some condoms and set up music before the date. She showed up in a nice red dress with her hair done. I found out that she went to the hair salon straight from her work and then came from the hair salon straight to the date venue in her car (no Uber this time). We had a few drinks and I ran the question game going into some sexual topics. About 90 minutes into the date, I seeded the pull to which she just ignored without saying yes or no. So after a total of 2 hours, I told her let’s take a walk around the town. We walked and kissed more on the street, as we got close to my car I told her I have a nice bottle of wine and some cool videos (some music videos we discussed during the date) to show you. Let’s go have wine at my place and watch the videos. She said she was very tired today and doesn’t feel like coming tonight but next time for sure we can have drinks at your place. I pushed twice more but she didn’t agree. So we left after making out near my car.  

I felt I didn’t get her logistics right to understand if it would be feasible for her to come back to my place. She may have been tired as she had worked the whole day then went straight to the hair saloon for 3 hrs and came to the date. But of course if she really wanted to fuck she would’ve came back to my Airbnb. Well that goes one night’s rent of Airbnb for nothing. I guess that’s the price you pay for not having good logistics.

Third Date

Again she was very receptive over text and keen to meet up for a 3rd date. This time I invited her directly to my place (Airbnb) for a wine and a movie night. She agreed with the day and time I suggested. A day before the date, she texted me asking if I’ll be cooking her dinner as well. I didn’t want to bring all the ingredients to cook in an Airbnb so I told her we’ll order something. She arrived (in an Uber) to my place at the agreed upon time, not late this time. She brought a little gift of 6 macaroon for me from a European bakery. She was dressed nicely in a pink top, leather skirt and black stockings. I could see, she came ready to get fucked. We sat on my couch, ordered some food and started talking while I put some nice music videos on the TV. She was more relaxed this time and opened up more. I was stroking my hand on her thighs as we were chatting and pulling her to kiss a few times as we talked. The food arrived, we went to the dinner table and had dinner with some wine.

After dinner, we sat down on the sofa again and were watching some videos on YouTube. I was taking this slow as I wanted to make sure that I get this lay and don’t come off as needy. But it looked like she had different plans in mind. 2 mins after we sat on the sofa after dinner, she looked straight in my eyes as I was changing the videos on YouTube. I could see her lusty eyes and could tell she wanted to start making out, I grabbed her by her neck and started kissing her. I was still going slow during the kissing but she started using her tongue and jumped on my lap to make out. I start grabbing her tits as we were kissing and took off her top. No LMR. She had a nice black bra on and I started kissing her all over as she was grinding on me. I took off her bra and started sucking on her tits. She started moaning loudly so I carried her near to the dining table and pushed her against the wall. During the question game on the 2nd date, she did tell me that she likes to be dominated and her favorite part of her body is her boobs. So I gave her some compliments on her boobs as I was fondling and sucking on them. I grabbed her hands and turned her over against the wall, removed her leather skirt and she did have a matching panty on. I started spanking her ass as I knew she liked to be dominated. I spanked her ass until it turned slightly red and pulled her onto the dining table. I spread her legs and went down on her to lick her pussy. After few mins I carried her over to the bedroom for some more action. I started fingering her and she was moaning loudly. After around 30 mins of foreplay in total, I grabbed the condom from the box that I had deliberately put in the drawer next to the bed a few hours before she came over. I stood by the bed and turned her over to fuck her in the doggy style. I made sure to slap her ass few times and pull her hair as I was fucking her. The visual was very exciting so I came in the condom in about 5 mins. We cuddled after for few mins with some light massage. After few mins she said she had to go back as her parents would start calling her if its late. She ordered the Uber and off she went.

The one thing that this lay has taught me is the importance of LOGISTICS. I could’ve gotten this lay on the first date if I had my logistics right, she came prepared to have sex on the first date (hence she had taken Uber to get to the date venue) and she was the one who started making out with me at the end of the night after my 2 attempts to kiss her. Having good logistics is a key to getting more lays and I understand that by not having good logistics, I could lose more lays in future.

As of writing this lay report, I am at 437 lifetime approaches from daygame. I had planned to get to 500 approaches by end of the year but looks like I’ll be reaching that goal sooner than expected.

Daygame in NYC: A Review

“One can’t paint New York as it is, but rather as it is felt.”

Georgia O’Keeffe

NYC By The Numbers

This post will talk about my trip to NYC and my experience daygaming there, but I thought I would change things up a bit. Instead of writing up my experience and reflecting on it and then go into the stats, I will start with the numbers and then go into more detail in subsequent paragraphs. Without further ado, here are my stats:

  • Days in NYC: 8
  • Approaches: 76
  • Numbers: 14
  • Dates: 2 (here and here)
  • Near misses: 2 (see above)
  • Average age of the girls I went out with: 18.5
  • Honorable mentions: I do think only staying a week in NYC made it tougher on me, both on the dates I went, as well as not being able to get out some of the leads I had.
    • There was a black girl that I opened on Friday (I was leaving on Sunday) that was super cute, Breeze even commented he would have approached her if I didn’t go for it, and he usually doesn’t go for black girls! The set was on, and she was down for drinks on Saturday… except I was busy getting dinner with the guys during the time she mentioned and told her to meet me later, only to find out she had plans – but she did offer Monday or Tuesday night. If I had another week in NYC, I am very confident that would have been my third date out of the approaches I did
    • There was also a 28 year old slim Venezuelan girl I approached on Monday who loved the set but ended up being a bit flaky over WhatsApp (Latinas can be that way!) and I tried to get her out until the last minute, but unsuccessfully. With this one, it is likely that even with more time I wouldn’t have been able to get her out, but if I had more time and could afford to play it cooler who knows what would have happened?
    • There was also a smoking hot Puerto Rican brunette that gave me a huge IOI as I was walking to have dinner on Monday with Breeze, and the set was going great… until her Eastern European “friend” showed up as I was trying to close! I still closed like a boss anyway, but the energy changed at that second, I could feel it (if I had two minutes to close before he showed up, things would likely have been different, she was into me and I could tell). It was an interesting experience, but she never responded to the feeler
    • A 19 year old Mexican student who at first told me I was too old for her when I tried to close… then I closed anyway and she responded to my text straight away and even said at one point “yeah I wanna chill soon”, but she ended up being busy studying for exams during the week, and I tried to overhype the adventurous card and get her out. She was in play until the last night, but I couldn’t get her out. Not the strongest lead, but if I had more time and could play it cooler rather than trying to force getting her out, she might have came out as well (although I got a similar vibe from her as the 28 yr old Venezuelan above, so even if I had more time both might have still flaked anyway)

Every Beginning Is Hard

I was looking forward to my NYC trip – I had never been, and I was super excited to explore the city, feel its vibe, and of course hit the streets hard! Well, I think the fact that I was looking forward to it so much for the couple of weeks before the trip got to me and it even overwhelmed me a bit initially. On the Saturday of my arrival, I met up with Breeze and the Pickup Artist Formerly Known As Mr.V, and the three of us hit the mean streets of NYC. It was an interesting experience for me, and like I said, I got overwhelmed a bit – I hadn’t really done street daygame up to that point (besides some college campus game, but that feels a lot different), the streets were looking way more packed than anything I had seen here in the Midwest (it reminded me of Europe!), I had only done a handful of front stops in my daygame career and needed to work on my technique, and when one of the other guys was doing an approach I was so curious to watch them in set that I wasn’t actively looking for my own sets as much as I should have been. A bit later, Brown Daygamer joined us as well, and now there were 4 of us walking the streets. Breeze and V were super helpful in giving me feedback on my front stop after I did a couple of sets, and I knew what I needed to do. However, my mind was going crazy analyzing everything that was happening – new city, fuller streets (even though according to Breeze and V, not as many solo girls as usual on weekends), getting used to the front stop, getting used to having wings to watch/wait for as they game, getting used to spotting sets in the crowd, etc. All in all, by the time we all sat down for dinner, I had done a total of 3 sets, with no leads. After my high hopes for NYC, that definitely felt like a letdown! When I went back to my Airbnb, I knew I needed to do better, and I actually had trouble sleeping as my mind was analyzing the crazy amounts of information I had picked up daygaming in NYC. I also have to say – it was super cool daygaming with V, Breeze and Brown Daygamer (for the rest of the trip, I mostly daygamed with Breeze). Four people can feel like a lot when daygaming, especially to someone like me who is used to going at it alone, but we made it work, and I learned from each one of them, as they all had distinct styles and thoughts. Great guys with great vibe as well, that first day was a memorable experience for me!

On Sunday, I was about to meet with Breeze and V again for some daygame in Brooklyn, at a spot recommended to us by Brown. I was looking forward to hitting the streets hard, I knew I needed to do more sets and just go for it, and work on my front stop. I did a quick set in the morning, and then my fifth set of the trip ended up being the subway set with Julia, the teen model who ended up being my first date in NYC, and my first near miss that I have linked above. Sometimes, as long as you are out there taking action, things happen out of nowhere! After getting off the subway, I met with Breeze and V, and did a few sets in Brooklyn, without much traction. A Latina with super fit body was the most fun approach that I remember, she loved the set and was pretty flirtatious, but ended up having a boyfriend as I tried to work myself deeper into the set. I tried to override that objection (I usually don’t, but being in NYC for a week I said fuck it, let’s see what happens), but she told me she lives with him and it didn’t go anywhere, although both of us were still smiling and she touched my arm as she was talking about it. I even ended up doing a two set later on (something I rarely do), but that went nowhere. At the end of the day, I had done six approaches, so over the weekend I had done 9 approaches, a bit short of the goal I had in mind. I knew I needed to pick it up, but I didn’t see as many good sets as I would have liked. I knew I was getting into the groove of things, and Sunday was definitely better than Saturday, so I was super excited for Monday and seeing how I would be able to do alone (Breeze would join me for some sessions during the day later on, but not during the early parts of the week).

Hitting The Groove

On Monday morning, I went out of my apartment and I knew what I wanted to do: visit a couple of tourist sites early, and then later in the afternoon daygame into the evening as foot traffic picked up. I had set up a date with Julia for Tuesday afternoon, so my only lead was going well so far, now I needed to generate more. The first five sets went nowhere, and the last one of the five was my first NYC total blowout – a Chinese girl walked around my front stop without even looking at me, what a bitch! Of course, my vibe wasn’t really affected by it (I have gotten better at shaking those off from having done a decent amount of sets) and I even found it funny. I stopped by my apartment to drop the touristy things I had picked up, and it was now around 3 pm – I told myself it was prime time for daygame, and that I needed to go hit the streets and get me some leads!

As soon as I did that and stepped out of my apartment, my luck seemed to change – I got the number of a cute Dominican girl who hooked strongly, then a set with an Asian girl who loved the approach but had a bf, and then I stopped the Venezuelan girl I mentioned above. A couple of numbers in quick succession, and suddenly I was into the groove – I was actively looking for more sets, I had gotten the hang of this NYC place now! My front stop felt better, I wasn’t overwhelmed by the mean streets of New York anymore, I was a man on a mission and I knew it. My 500th daygame set happened as well, and it was a very fun, flirty one – it was with a small Asian girl, I teased her about being a ninja and she loved the roleplay, contributing to it and even bringing back a reference to it later in the set! Sexual eye contact was there, she even pulled her mask down for me – so when I number closed her by seeding we get a drink together soon, I thought it was a guaranteed lay, right? So I texted her later that night… and she never responded to my feeler text! That’s how the game goes sometimes, you could have a set that feels on… and then you send a text into the void.

I got an IOI off a slim Kazakh short girl, and the set was super on until I tried to number close, so the set ended in an interesting way with me persisting to close her, but that didn’t feel too good – her English was bad so I wasn’t sure what exactly her resistance to me taking her number was, but it was an interesting set, and despite the IOI and the good work I had done in set, I felt like the number was dead, and it ended up being no good. I did a few more sets, and then on the way to dinner with Breeze I did my last set of the day, with the Puerto Rican girl I wrote about above. She might have been the hottest girl I had opened while in NYC, and she also gave me a huge IOI as she stood there, and the set was super sexual and flirty…until her “friend” showed up. Writing about it now, it has taken me back to the set and how good it all felt, and how weird it felt once her friend showed up. I am very happy with the way I held frame and handled the situation, but the feeling of practically knowing that I lost a hot lead due to her friend showing up then and not 2 minutes later wasn’t the best if I am being honest. That’s the breaks of daygame though – I even joked to her about her waiting for a Tinder date earlier on in the set before he showed up, and she said “Oh no, I am just waiting for my friend” I had a feeling based on how she reacted and her mood changed as soon as he showed up that they were a bit more than that, but girls are gonna be girls!

That was a wrap for Monday – I had done 18 approaches, and after the initial 5 where I had gotten no numbers, I ended with 5 numbers, some of them more solid than others. I felt great – I had proven to myself that the initial feeling of being overwhelmed was gone, and my mind was finally able to get used to NYC and its streets. I had been able to improve my game with each set, and walk with confidence knowing that while daygaming indoors is different from street daygame, the transition can be quick once you make the adjustments and process all the information your brain sees on the mean, crowded streets of NYC. I went to bed happy that night, knowing that I gave it my all, my vibe was good, and I was happy but surprised at the amount of IOIs I had gotten that day, some of them from super hot girls.

Tuesday was when my date with Julia was going to be, and it also ended up being the day when I approached Amy, my two dates and near misses, so it was one of the better days I would end up having in NYC! Of course, I also had to hit the streets, and interestingly enough, Amy was my fifth approach of the day and my first number – just like Monday, the girls I approached at first were either not interested or unavailable. Maybe some of it was due to the fact that I had to warm up and get in the zone as well – here in the Midwest, I rarely do days where I can get 5+ approaches due to the volume, but being in a city where that is possible, I definitely felt the rising confidence and DGAF attitude that comes from going for a lot of approaches during a single day. The 19 yr old Mexican girl was also a lead from Tuesday, as well as a Russian girl who loved my approach and we had a good interaction in set where she offered me her number, and while we did exchange some texts back and forth, she went radio silent as soon as I suggested a date. Overall, Tuesday ended with 12 sets and 3 numbers, not as many sets as Monday but the numbers ended up being a bit more solid, and I had done 30 sets over 2 days! (The most I had done in a week in the Midwest prior to my NYC trip was 22, and that was an outlier, so I was loving the volume!)

Winged Daygame

Wednesday was the first weekday where I daygamed with Breeze, as we wanted to hit the streets together for the remaining time I had in NYC. We ended up getting along super well and being good wings for each other, keeping our vibe up and encouraging each other to go for girls when we were on the fence – all while exploring NYC! Before my trip, I had heard that NYC daygame can be brutal and wear players out with a lot of blowouts, and girls walking away right after the opener, making conversation hard to get. Up until this point, with the exception of a few sets, I had experienced something different – lots of volume even during Corona, with a couple of leads generated in the first few days, and streets that seemed to be full of excitement. Was it the fact that I was shiny in NYC? Perhaps – while Breeze and I were picking up smoothies on one of the days, I had an older slimmer girl basically daygame me because she heard Breeze and I talk, and she liked my accent. If she was a bit younger and cuter I would have taken her number, but that felt good. I also got called some variation of handsome or good-looking every day by a girl or two while in set (or on the dates), and even though sometimes they had boyfriends and I didn’t close them, it still felt good – I was getting much better results than I usually do in the Midwest. Perhaps it was the fact that I was finally doing street game, which is what the London Daygame Model was invented for, so the daygame Gods were being super nice to me? I am not sure what it was, but I loved NYC and daygaming there!

Wednesday was also a good day for me – 10 approaches with 2 numbers. My front stop was feeling much better with all the practice I was getting, although I noticed I didn’t fully unpack topics in set sometimes, moving around too much too quickly. It wasn’t too big of a deal as I was still getting leads and eye sparkle, but it was something I had noticed I could improve to take my game to the next level. For the first five days, I had done 49 approaches, with 11 numbers coming out of them, and I was loving the volume and the opportunity NYC had to offer me. I also loved the food options and how you could walk everywhere, even if I didn’t go there for daygame I felt like I would have loved NYC, as it is the most European-like city on this side of the ocean in my opinion.

Thursday was the first day where I got the rough NYC daygame experience, and the second day I daygamed with Breeze during the week. We had a lot of fun, despite the fact that I did 12 approaches and got…. 0 numbers! Up until that point, I had done much better than my average, and closed almost every fourth girl, seeing a lot of IOIs, and getting a lot of investment from girls when I opened – even the ones that weren’t interested seemed to love the fact that I approached them. Thursday was different – way less interest, way less hooks, and no numbers as mentioned. I am definitely blaming the shirt I was wearing that day, it was obviously the reason for my diminished results! A highlight of Thursday was probably a girl with HUGE tits (likely fake) that I noticed seating on a bench, I told Breeze I had to do that set and he agreed. The vibe of the set was flirtatious as I noticed her looking my way a couple of times before I approached her, and she loved the approach but did mention she lives with her fiance “right there” and pointed the skyscraper across from us, “so I am just chilling in my backyard” she said with a smile. Her fiance is probably loaded!

After a few more blowouts, I did get a good set with a brunette, and she was one of the cuter girls that I approached that day too – she mentioned her bf, but told me she finds me “cute” and she would if she was single. The vibe was good and eye contact was there, so I stuck around for a bit more and tried again, but it didn’t go anywhere, despite her obvious attraction to me. It picked up my vibe a bit, as some of the blowouts and the day generally being way less successful than the previous days got my head scratching a bit, but looking back on it, my game was still improving, I just ran into a lot of unreceptive girls on that day!

Friday was the day that I had my second date and second near miss with Amy, and also my second to last day daygaming in NYC, and I had just started to realize that my trip was going to come to its end soon, which I hadn’t thought about up until now. I had fallen in love with NYC, its vibe, and how much volume of girls its streets provided, so I wanted to milk it for all its worth (probably one of the reasons I pushed too hard with Amy). Friday ended up being a lot better than Thursday, with girls loving the approaches and even ones who had a bf or otherwise weren’t interested engaging and enjoying my approach. I got 3 numbers out of 9 approaches, and the last one was the black girl I mentioned in the opening section – she was down to meet the next day, but given the fact that I was leaving and meeting up with the guys, it didn’t happen, despite her suggesting meeting the week after. She also texted me the Sunday when I was leaving curious where I was going back to and when I would come back to NYC again, so it is safe to say she was a strong “Yes” girl, but it wasn’t meant to be! I also was happy with how my vibe recovered after the second near miss in a few days, and by the end of the day I had hit a stride where my approaches were very good. Breeze definitely helped me in the beginning, and talking him over what had happened definitely helped me pour my thoughts out and focus on having more, successful approaches once again, rather than focusing and overanalyzing the date I had just had.

Saturday was going to be my last day in NYC, and I wanted to make it count while having fun and enjoying myself! I met up with V and Breeze, and Breeze actually ended up going on an instadate shortly into the approach session! Meanwhile, my Saturday was a lot like the Thursday – I did 6 sets as volume again wasn’t the best (I had better luck finding solo girls during the week compared to the weekend) and got zero numbers once again. My best set was probably with a sexy Colombian who gave me an IOI as I walked by, and she opened up right away, loving that I approached her. However, she brought up the fact that she was engaged after a couple of minutes, so I let her go after that. Other than that, most of the sets were quick blowouts, and I finished it up with a smile on my face! After the approaching session, I had dinner with V, Breeze and Magnum. If you haven’t checked out his blog, give it a shot now – he is a very solid guy and knows what he is doing! I enjoyed sharing stories with all of them and learning from them, having fun on my last night in NYC. While the week hadn’t gone too fast and I had enough experiences to enjoy it and learn from it, I wished I could stay for another week, but all good things must come to an end! I left NYC early the next day, driving back to the Midwest (not before I stopped in Philly to meet up with Cypher though!)

General Thoughts on NYC Daygame

If I have to sum up my thoughts on daygame in NYC, I will first and foremost say this: if you are in America and trying to learn daygame, it doesn’t get much better than NYC! Even during these Corona times, there was plenty of volume on the streets, as can be seen from my 76 approaches over 8 days (an average of ~10 approaches per day). I did feel like the quality wasn’t what I expected from NYC, but Breeze and V both told me “You should have seen it before all of this happened!” – way more traffic, and of course higher quality and quantity of girls. I feel like I could have likely done 15-20 sets a day during normal times in NYC, but for someone who is used to doing an average of 5-10 sets per week here in the Midwest, having the ability to do so many sets in a week was a great learning experience. I realized that living in such a city would give me the opportunity to become a much better daygamer way quicker, while also getting more leads and results.

Of course, there were some blowouts too, and NYC can be a rough place to daygame at times, with most approaches leading to nowhere. I think if you are in America, it is the best place to learn daygame, as the volume mentioned above can be combined with the solid frame you build as girls just walk around you as you try to stop them – if that doesn’t get you tougher, nothing will! I remember one girl looked at me briefly as I stopped her, said “I am not interested in talking to strange men!” and walked away – I laughed as I walked back to V to tell him what had just happened, and I have a smile on my face as I am recalling that story right now. The general NYC/East Coast behavior means that some girls will ignore you like you are not even there, but on the plus side I did find out that if a set hooked, the girl loved the approach and it was easy to make progress. NYC is the most pedestrian out of any US city, making it the best place in the US of A (very nice, Borat like- high five!) to practice and learn street daygame.

Of course, we have to ask the question: how does NYC daygame compare to Europe? I haven’t done enough daygame in my home continent yet (I will try to change that over the next few years) to answer that question comprehensively, but just being raised in Eastern Europe, I could tell you that the average quality of girls is much higher, which should lead to a guy with roughly similar skillset doing better in Europe. There have been other daygamers who have been able to confirm that empirically, and they agree: Europe is better for daygame, for a variety of reasons. Read Roy and Runner‘s reviews of NYC as it compares to daygaming in Europe.

In summary, if you are located in America, then a place like New York is likely your best bet for consistent numbers of solid sets for daygame, as most other places just aren’t pedestrian enough to give you enough leads per hour. I did find Philly to be decent enough when I met up with Cypher, but of course not on par with NYC. Some places like LA could work for beach/mall game (Santa Monica) from what I read, and the strip in Vegas could give you some great opportunities for gutter game turning into night game, with decent logistics as well. I haven’t been to LA/Vegas to give you my take on it, but based on how NYC is setup, I do believe it is your best option for learning and improving your daygame skillset. Is it as good as most larger European cities though? As you can read above from daygamers who have done both, it is not even close – but beggars can’t be choosers, so if you have to be on this side of the ocean for work/family/whatever, then try to make it to NYC if you are serious about your daygame. I can tell you from experience – daygaming in the Midwest now after experiencing NYC feels like a huge letdown!

I had a lot of fun in NYC, and I would love to go back again once the city is back to its vibrant self. Right now though, my main goal is making it back to Europe next year once some of the restrictions are lifted, and spending some more time over there. This is my last blog post detailing my experience daygaming in NYC, I will be focusing on something a bit different over the next few weeks which I hope the daygame community will find useful. Stay tuned to my blog and my Twitter and you will see what I am talking about once I am finished!

Daygame in NYC: Near Miss With an Asian NYU Student

“London is satisfied, Paris is resigned, but New York is always hopeful. Always it believes that something good is about to come off, and it must hurry to meet it.”

Dorothy Parker

Introduction

In this post, I will talk about my second date (and what ended up being my second near miss) during my week of daygame in NYC. As you know if you had read my previous blog post, I had a date with a nineteen year old teen model named Julia who had just moved to the city, and had a near miss when I bounced her back to my Airbnb. I did mention in that post that a few hours before our date, as I was scouting the area around the park where I was meeting Julia, I did another approach that ultimately resulted in the story I will tell in this blog post. I will talk about the approach, the texting that ultimately led to the date, the date itself, the bounce back to my Airbnb, and why this was a near miss. My mistakes here were a bit more obvious, so it will be easier to analyze, and it was easier for me to learn from this one than from the near miss with Julia (it is likely that I played my cards correctly with Julia, even though I like to reflect back and think that I can always improve, even if I run solid game for the most part). However, I definitely made a few mistakes towards the end here, and part of that was due to the fact I was going to be leaving town in a couple of days, so I had to go for broke. Even so, there were a few things I believe I could have improved now that I had a chance to reflect back on this girl and how the date went. So without further ado, let’s jump right into it!

The Approach

It was Tuesday, my fourth day in NYC and I was out and approaching girls, while at the same time keeping up with the leads I had acquired so far. I had just confirmed my date for that night with Julia for that night, and I was walking around the park where we would meet for our date to ensure I knew the surrounding area for a store that had drinks we could pick up before I took her to the park so we could talk. I had done a few sets already, some were decent but no good leads yet, and I had just done a set at the park which ended up being a bad one – I got distracted by some skaters as I was opening a girl that was seated, and that caused my voice to be shaky and I didn’t project it. The girl ignored me at first, and I did try again but that didn’t help, so I learned my lesson and I walked away just like that. I definitely had a better time approaching girls as they were walking around and going in and out of the park than I did approaching seated sets in that park, it felt more comfortable and natural to do.

As I was walking out of the park on my way to the store next door to scout it out, I noticed Amy. She was a short Chinese brunette with good curvy body for her size, and even though I don’t usually go for Asian girls too often, I had to go for this one. I stopped her right as she walked past the store I would hit up later with Julia, and I could tell initially my approach shocked her a bit and took her out of whatever she was thinking, but then her face quickly turned into a smile, and I could tell she seemed to like me. Amy was 18 years old, a student at NYU from China. Her English was pretty good, and she seemed witty while still being shy, which I found very cute. She took my teases well and answered them in a good way, and the vibe of the set was very good, I could tell this would likely lead somewhere (she also took her mask off for me after a bit, also a great sign). I spiked it sexually by teasing her about having secrets since her parents are so far away and she was all alone here in NYC, to which she responded “Don’t we all?” with a mischievous smile. Well played, Amy, well played!

Since the set was going super well and she told me it was her off day and she wasn’t doing anything besides going to grab a quick bite to eat, I had a decision to make, and I had to make it quickly. Do I go for the instadate with Amy, since the set was super on, thus risking running close to my date with Julia? Or do I settle for the number here, get Amy out on another day, and then focus on doing more approaches and then meeting Julia? I quickly settled on just grabbing Amy’s number and focusing my attention on the date with Julia, as Julia was a model and thus a bit more attractive than Amy in my mind (although Amy was also very good looking, I must say). I was wondering if I made the right move as I walked away – what if it was one of those sets that had lots of sexual energy… and then I would text her and she wouldn’t respond? Should I have just taken her on an instadate (which she seemed down for) and cut it short? My mind wondered, but I texted Amy later that night after Julia left my place (along with the other leads I got before my date with Julia – an Ukrainian brunette and a Mexican teen student) and she responded to my message almost right away. Since she was responding so well, I pitched a date for the next day since I was only in town for a few more days, and she seemed receptive, even suggesting a place where we could grab a tea. When I mentioned a time though, she told me she had a class then, so after a bit of back and forth we settled on Friday early afternoon. I was going to leave on Sunday morning, thus knowing that I would likely only have one shot of escalating with Amy to pull her back to my place and make things happen. I was looking forward to the escalation challenge, having learned some lessons from my time with Julia.

The Date

I was with Breeze earlier that Friday, exploring the fine NYC museums (I know what you are probably thinking: daygamers have hobbies besides picking up chicks???) and I told him my intentions – escalate on the date as quickly as I can, and if I get green lights bounce Amy back to my place and seeing if I can make it happen. If not, I told him, I would meet him after the date so we can do some more approaches that Friday night. I only had one week in NYC, and I didn’t want to waste a minute of it, which would end up hurting me on this particular date. I am getting ahead of myself, though!

I made my way over to the park, and a few minutes later Amy showed up wearing a black shirt, short black skirt, and heels (as well as a choker). She looked great – and I could tell she was definitely dressed to impress on our date, a great sign right off the bat! We started walking towards the place we would pick up tea from, and I made sure to go into comfort chit chat, asking her about her classes. She told me she had finished her last class (another good sign), and I told her she now could relax and enjoy her Friday. We kept talking about how she came to America, how she liked China, etc. and I was keeping the vibe up with teases from time to time. As we picked up our tea, we started walking back to the park, and I made sure to lead in choosing where to sit, jokingly rejecting a few benches for obviously weird reasons (“the old couple next to that bench looks TOO relaxed, maybe they smoked something on the way here”) which made Amy laugh and showed that I was enjoying myself and having fun. I finally chose a good bench, and we sat next to each other.

I again started to ramp up the spontaneous element of a big city after a bit, telling Amy how cool it is to meet new people and make memories with them, and overplaying our cultural differences as a sign of attraction. I also made sure to escalate with kino, and she was very receptive as I made my way to putting my hand on her thigh for a few seconds. It was going well – and she kept great eye contact, as I tried to eyefuck her while I was talking. She looked down a few times shyly with a smile, and I had a good feeling about it. As we finished up our teas, I made sure she didn’t have anything going on in the afternoon, and it all sounded good. I told her we could go for a walk and I would show her the neighborhood I was staying at – no objections from her, so I walked her over that way. On the way, I made sure to sexualize with words as well – she told me how she had a boyfriend in middle school that she had to keep secret due to the culture, and I teased her about being a bad girl. She also told me that last year she saw a man masturbate at the park (gotta love NYC!) and I teased her she probably liked it while she hit me on the arm. This felt on, even though it didn’t feel as on as it had felt with Julia at that point. Nevertheless, there were no objections from Amy as I walked her towards my place and told her I would show her around and I wanted to drop off a magnet I had picked up at the museum.

I could tell she felt a bit nervous as she walked in my apartment, and I gave her the quick tour (those NYC apartments are small). A part of me wanted to get the lay so I could go back on the street and make use of my time in NYC, which likely ended up being a mistake on my part. I didn’t take enough time to make Amy feel comfortable at my place. I started to escalate things sexually too quickly, and she did tell me she liked being choked when I asked what she liked during sex. We made out shortly after we sat on my couch, and after a while I ended up pulling her shirt up and sucking on her nipples a bit. The sexual attraction was definitely on, but something felt off – I should have stopped there and talked for a few minutes more (or ideally done that as we were in my place, and not went for the lay so quickly). But I didn’t – in my mind, I didn’t wanna waste time, and I wanted to see if I would get the lay or not. After a bit of making out, Amy rolled off me for a bit, and told me she had to go meet a friend. I knew at that point I had escalated too much too quickly, and despite her being a yes girl who was into me, I likely burned this set to the ground before I got laid. I tried to persist and act cool anyway, but I could tell it wasn’t going to happen at this point. I realized my mistake here, but I was in town for only a couple more days, so I persisted a bit more, much more that I would have normally. It didn’t lead anywhere, and I walked Amy down the stairs. Vibe was completely different than it was with Julia, although it wasn’t that bad. I made sure to mention hanging out again, and she seemed to agree, although both of us knew that would never happen. We made out outside my apartment as we were outside, and I let her go. I never saw her again!

Lessons Learned

  • You can mess things up even with yes girls – Amy was definitely a yes girl, I could tell by the way she looked at me right after the shock of my approach. The eye contact, the sexual talk, the touches, what she wore for the date – everything suggested she liked me and would have fucked me had I played my cards right. And I did… up until I bounced her back to my place. I didn’t give her enough time to feel comfortable at my place, and I escalated too quickly, showing neediness. Why did I show neediness? I didn’t wanna waste my time – in my mind, if I spent 3-4 hours with her, that was time I wouldn’t have to approach, and I only had one more day in the city. If I had another week in NYC, I likely would have done it differently, but that is not an excuse. I was too set to going for the quick lay rather than using calibration, which would have told me that she needed a bit more time at my place to feel comfortable, even if she was into me. It was painful to have two girls bounced back to my place in three days, getting sexual with them, and having two near misses, but that’s the game sometimes! That had never happened to me up until this point (usually if a girl gets back to my place, we have sex). However, those two near misses I have learned a lot from over the last few weeks, and I have thought about them a lot. There is a silver lining to everything, you just have to find it.
  • Logistics are huge – my Airbnb was centrally located, and as such, it was laughably easy to just walk girls towards it on our date, and then mention “I live right here btw. I will show you” and then both girls came back without saying anything, just like that. Living in the Midwest suburbs for a few years now, I loved how easy all of that was – so many bars and restaurants around the area too, making it easy to have the last drink super close to my place if I was staying longer on other dates. Good logistics can definitely be the difference between bouncing a girl back to your place on the first date and never seeing her again
  • Daygame works best in huge cities – I can’t believe how many leads I got in just a week of approaching in NYC. The number of approaches I did was great, too – something that is impossible to do here in the Midwest. I will write up more about this in the overall NYC daygame post that will be coming soon, but if you are serious about daygame, you need to move to a pedestrian city like NYC, London, Prague, Moscow, Warsaw, etc. And for those of you that are daygaming in non-pedestrian cities like I am, I will have a surprise for you in the next few weeks that should make it easy to get started (or get better at approaching girls in non-street venues). Stay tuned for my next post on my overall thoughts about daygaming in NYC, as well as for the surprise!

Daygame in NYC: Near Miss With a Teen Model

“One belongs to New York instantly, one belongs to it as much in five minutes as in five years.”

Tom Wolfe

Introduction

As you know if you follow me on Twitter, I spent some time in NYC recently. I had planned to visit earlier in the year, around May, but the lockdown prevented that from happening. I had wanted to visit NYC for two reasons: I was always curious to see the city itself, as I had heard great things about it, and is what you could consider the most European city on this side of the ocean. The second reason, of course, was daygame – I started my daygame journey in the Midwest and had done most of my sets in places like malls, grocery stores, department stores, and some on college campuses. I had always wanted, however, to try my game in a pedestrian city to experience what high foot traffic is like, as well as give me the opportunity to improve my front stop. I will write more about my overall experience in a later blog post, as I had a lot of fun in NYC, and a lot of good stories to tell. In this story, however, I will focus on an unusual approach of a girl that ended up being a nineteen year old model, and talk about my experiences and what I learned from meeting her.

The Unusual Approach

It was my second day in NYC. I have to admit, the first day was a bit overwhelming for me – I will go into more detail once I write up a blog post on my overall experience daygaming in NYC (coming soon), but daygaming only on the street, perfecting my front stop and approaching in a new, larger city with a lot more foot traffic than I am used to were some of the reasons why it took me a bit of time to get used to all of it. I had done four sets since my arrival in NYC, and after meeting up with an old friend who lives around I was about to meet up for another daygame session with Breeze and the pickup artist formerly known as Mr.V.

It was my first time in NYC, and I walked down to the subway station to catch my train. As it was my first using the subway in NYC, I was naturally questioning whether I am at the right one or not, and was looking at my phone to double check, with thoughts on the back of my mind around asking for help to ensure I get on the right train. That’s when I saw Julia – she was a slim brunette with darker skin and what seemed to be a good rack for a girl her size. I was attracted to her instantly – my first thought was that she could help me get on the right train, while immediately after my second thought was that I should approach her.

Despite this being an unusual spot to approach for me and given that I was still getting used to approaching in NYC, I have to say I am proud that I felt no hesitation whatsoever while walking towards Julia and saying the first thing on my mind, which was that I wasn’t sure if I was at the right spot to catch my train or not. She made eye contact as I was walking towards her, and she stood up as I showed her my phone and asked her if she knew I was at the right spot or not. She grabbed my phone pretty quickly, which my mind later thought was a good sign, given that she was comfortable coming close to me as we talked about the directions. She told me she had just moved to NYC yesterday and she wasn’t too sure, but thought this was the right train – and I told her I just got here yesterday too, so we had that in common. She seemed to like that fact, and I teased her that she should help me make sure I got on the right train. I then had to show some intent, so on top of holding strong eye contact and sitting right next to her, I told her I found her attractive and liked her style, while teasing her about her outfit a bit. She lit up and started to qualify herself a bit – told me she is a model right away, and I teased her about walking the catwalk. I introduced some touch as the train was taking forever, and she took touches well on the shoulder and then on the thigh, while eye contact was still pretty strong – things were going well, despite the unusual approach. She later told me she is still 19 and wants to make it big in NYC, which is why she had moved here – to pursue her fashion passion. She was talking a lot – telling me about other stuff she likes such as dancing and writing, while I was directing the convo. I told her that it is a small world given that both of us got here the day before, and played up the fun and spontaneous factor of meeting random people with which you have a connection. She seemed to love that, and I did mention catching up over a drink in the park to share our NYC experiences when we meet again. Julia was keen so I grabbed her number right there, while we sat together at the station.

We got on the subway together, and I teased her that she is responsible for me meeting my friends and not getting lost on my second day in NYC. I also made sure to weave in some DHV stories, like telling her about London when she said she would love to model there after a year or so in NYC. She kept talking a lot and fast, which was a good sign, and I kept directing the convo in ways that showed off the spontaneous and fun aspect of two strangers new to NYC meeting each other, and how it must be fate. I also ensured I did light kino and touched her thigh a few more times, with her again taking that very well. As she told me I have to take the next stop, I seeded the date idea once again – going to the park together and sharing a drink while each of us tells stories about NYC and what we had explored. Then I got off the subway to meetup with Breeze and V, realizing the fact that this was in some ways like an instadate, and I had spent maybe 30 mins with Julia. I had a good feeling about this one as I was telling them the story of how I met her, and how unusual that approach ended up being. I also thought to myself that if I didn’t do daygame, I would have likely not pursued her as much as I did, and I wouldn’t have realized she was interested in me and liked me. Lesson in there: even if you approach in unusual circumstances in an indirect way, if your game is good enough, you can realize that the opportunity is there for the taking and pursue it further. Viva daygame!

The Date

I pinged Julia that same night after I got home and she was very responsive over text, replying quickly to my messages. After about 3-4 texts back and forth, I told her to meet me for a drink, and she agreed to meet on Tuesday night, two days after meeting her on Sunday at the subway station. She sent me a text she would be half an hour late a couple of hours before the date, and I made sure to tease her for it over text, ensuring I keep the vibe playful.

I was out and about in NYC that day before the date, ensuring I got more approaches done to get more leads, as I was only staying for a little over a week. I made sure to walk by the park we were meeting at, scope out the stores around it, and found one right next to the park where we could grab drinks before walking over to the park and sharing the drinks there while we had our date. It is super important that as a man, you always move things forward confidently, and doing this research before the date helped me lead her there naturally later when we met up. An added bonus: I actually approached an eighteen year old student right in front of that store and I felt like she would have been down to go on an instadate, but I had to take her number, as I wanted to approach more and also didn’t wanna run too close to my date with Julia .

I made my way over to the park, running a few minutes late as I usually do when I go on dates. Julia texted me to let me know she is running a bit behind, but she got there a few minutes after I did. As we met up I gave her a hug and teased her about being late again, setting a playful vibe to the interaction. “But I am only 16 minutes late, that’s not a lot!” she protested. “Maybe where you come from, but 16 minutes is a lot here in NYC.” I said, as both of us smiled. Then I lead her to the nearby store, giving her the task to help me choose a drink for both of us. She wasn’t helping much so I had to take charge and grab something of my choosing, and we made it over to the park, where we sat on a bench as we started talking and drinking.

The date was a lot of fun, and we actually had a lot in common. I made sure to overhype the spontaneous element – how we met, how both of us are new to NYC, how it is good for people to go with the flow and enjoy themselves, etc. Julia was eating all of it right up, opening up even more to me in the process – telling me how her family is the exact opposite way, how strict they are compared to how open and go with the flow she is, how that was one of the reasons she wanted to move away to NYC. I made sure to run the usual kino, and she was receptive to all my touches, as well as keeping strong eye contact and responding well to my teases. The date was going super well, and as we talked, we kept drinking and talking about our experiences, NYC, traveling, ambitions, and such. As we were finishing up our drinks, I knew it was time to move things forward.

The Bounce

I made sure to get Julia’s logistics, and she said she had to do something with her roommate later, but had a bit more time. Since the date was going well, I offered to show her around the neighborhood I was staying at, and she was keen. We kept talking while we walked towards my Airbnb, and I slowly started to weave in sexual references in our chat, which went well, with her contributing to the conversation and sharing some stories as well. We were about 5 mins away from my place when I was talking about apartments in NYC and Julia said “Do you have a good view?” and I of course said “You can find out for yourself!” Sometimes, it is that easy to bounce a girl back to your place, given that the date is going well. We kept talking for a few more minutes as we walked towards my place, then I told her we had arrived and told her we can hang out there for a bit and that I would show her the view. Zero objections as we went up the stairs and to my Airbnb. Good game and good escalation on my part up until that point, and a fun date for both of us.

I gave Julia some time to get used to the apartment as I showed her around the small NYC apartment, and she commented her apartment was similar size, and we both laughed at how small apartments in a city like NYC can be. Looking back on this moment, I probably didn’t give Julia as much time to get used to the apartment as I thought. We sat on the couch, and we talked a bit as I started to escalate things. I asked Julia what she liked about me at one point in the process – “I liked your vibe and adventurous spirit, which I share. If I am being honest, I also thought you were good-looking!” I could tell she found me attractive by different actions on her part, but it was good to get that confirmed. We started making out, and shortly after I had her on top of me, as she was riding me through our clothes as I was feeling up her body. She went off after a bit, saying “Not tonight” with a mischievous smile. I knew what that meant, and so I went back to talking for a few minutes. I was going to be in NYC for about a week, and I think that fact made me a bit more eager than I should have been when I had girls on my couch, but I will talk about that in detail in my later post about NYC daygame. Shortly after, Julia and I were making out again, and this time I pulled her shirt up and sucked on her surprisingly large tits for her size. She moaned a bit, but after a while she again stepped aside and told me “Next time” while I took it with a smile and went back to chatting again. We did this a couple of more times, and I kept making progress each time, almost undressing her the last time when she rolled off again. I hadn’t experienced something like this in a while, so after a few times I just told myself that’s enough for tonight, I will try again next time if I can get her out. Some girls won’t have sex on the first date even if they like you, but I think I didn’t give Julia enough time before the first time I started to escalate, and also in between separate escalation attempts. I was a bit overeager at times to start the process since it felt so on, and she kept very strong eye contact as we talked, which was very sexual.

After chatting a bit, she told me that she had to go and help her roommate, which she had mentioned in the park as well. She also told me she had travelled 45-50 mins to see me as she showed me her way back via the subway when I teased her not to get lost. That surprised me a bit, I thought she lived closer, but also told me things were on, and if I changed a few things I possibly could have turned the near miss to a lay. I walked Julia out while suggesting another meetup to explore NYC, and she seemed keen to do that later, as her modeling job wouldn’t start for another month or so. We made out as I let her go towards her subway stop. She responded right away as I sent her another message, but then ignored the first date request, then pinged me later and seemed keen to meet again, but the second date request also didn’t go anywhere as I told her I was leaving town in a couple of days. Could I have gotten her out again if I had more time in NYC? Who knows, maybe I would have been able to do that and gotten the lay, but I still enjoyed how fast I was able to make things happen, and the experience was fun – two people, new to NYC who were attracted to each other met after 3 days in the big city, and enjoyed each other’s company. I also hadn’t experienced LMR like that one for quite some time, and I think some of my reaction to it wasn’t the best, I wasn’t cool enough. You live and you learn! Next day, I hit the streets again, generating new leads and having fun.

Lessons Learned

  • Daygame can help in any situation – here I was, thinking about getting on the subway when I met Julia. Before I daygamed seriously and approached regularly, I would have asked her for directions, but then I would have thought she was being nice and likely wouldn’t have had the confidence of pursuing such a beautiful girl. Now, however? I knew I had to shoot my shot and grabbed her number, then got her out on a date and back to my place, and was very close to having sex with her as our mutual attraction was evident. Being able to meet women anywhere, anytime is a big appeal to good daygame, and I am happy to say that I was able to do that on my second game in NYC, despite this being a little bit of an unexpected opportunity
  • You can escalate too fast – a few years ago, I was more scared anytime I had to make a move and kiss a girl, or otherwise put my balls on the line. I would do it anyway most of the time, but it would make me nervous. Now that I have more experience however, I feel no hesitation in making moves and seeing where I stand. In fact, on my trip to NYC I was perhaps moving things too quickly! Of course, that was due to the fact that I was only there for a week, and I wanted to make things happen. I have to say that fast escalation is something that every player should be capable of, but also calibration is important – sometimes it’s good to chill out more and give girls time. I could have let Julia feel more comfortable in my Airbnb before making my first move, and just dragged out the seduction dance more. Of course, all of that could have led to the same outcome, but I am always looking to improve my game, and I believe that could have made the small difference between a near miss and the lay
  • Always lead forward confidently- I didn’t know NYC, so I had to stop by the park before the date and find out where a store was. Why? So on the date, I could lead Julia there with full confidence and no hesitation. What would I have done if I didn’t do that? I would have struggled to find a store, would have had to look on my phone, and that would have taken her focus away from fun onto how it took me time to figure things out, and attraction would have dwindled. I avoided all of that by being ready and prepared. And I also met a NYU student I would end up going on a date with later on the week as I was scouting the area too, you can’t beat that! Stay tuned for a blog post about her as well
  • NYC is likely the best city for daygame in the US – Even during Corona times, there is so much volume of girls in NYC! I could step out of my apartment and sometimes see a cute girl within a minute! And as mentioned above, I met girls whom I had near misses with in situations which just don’t happen often in the Midwest, where you have to drive anywhere. Given how pedestrian NYC is, it’s an awesome place to get a lot of volume and learn good daygame, even if girls aren’t as hot and receptive as in Europe. Speaking of NYC daygame, stay tuned – I will write a blog post about my overall experience and learnings from my week in NYC soon. Until next time!

July Field Report: Instadate with Thicc African

“Freedom lies in being bold”

Robert Frost

Introduction

I had came back from down South and been to my city in the Midwest for over a month in July, and daygame was very dismal – I had only been able to get maybe 15 sets the entire month. I had also tried nightgame a few times with a couple of wings, and the bars were also 50-70% emptier than they were before Corona. Obviously not a great time to be a player! However, I knew I had to persist and get out there and try to make things happen, even if the streets/malls/stores were pretty empty. I decided to go downtown on a beautiful Saturday, and told myself that even if there aren’t many sets, at least I will get some sun and enjoy walking around (which will help me with my cutting phase as well).

The Blonde

Almost as soon as I had parked my car and stepped into a park, I saw a cute blonde sitting on a bench. She looked at me and smiled – I had to go back and approach her! As soon as I turned back, she got up before seeing me and started to walk away, but I was only a few steps behind and was able to get in front of her and approach. The set was very flirty and the vibe was good – she was in town for only another day and was leaving Sunday, and she was about to go home to get ready to meet her friends as they were going out. I knew that despite her hooking pretty strongly, I likely wouldn’t be able to instadate her, so I suggested meeting up on Sunday before she leaves for a drink. I took her number, knowing that trying to get her out in such a short time frame likely wouldn’t happen (I was correct, she never responded to my feeler). I walked away from that set feeling great, as there were some good sexual spikes and she was very flirtatious, which made the vibe in the set feel good for the first approach of the day. The daygame gods didn’t want to smile on me in that set and let it be an instadate before she left town the next day, but them’s the breaks sometimes!

Instadate Incoming

Here’s the weird thing – I almost didn’t go out that Saturday as I wasn’t feeling it too much, but the weather was so nice that I forced myself to drive downtown. Goes to show you that you never know what will happen if you go out in the world and try to penetrate your will into it (and into girls’ vaginas ;)). After the set with the blonde, I headed downtown, hoping to see more sets. My walk towards the park was largely uneventful, without many people passing me by. The good vibe from the first set had carried me over and now I was ready to approach more, so I walked around when a thicc girl caught my eye – she was stationary, standing by and holding onto the rails with her back turned towards me. She had a nice looking juicy ass, and my instinct told me her curves were of Latina origin. She was wearing a nice fitted dress, so I had to go in and approach.

I walked up to her and delivered my direct opener, then realized she was on the phone, so I made that observation. She smiled and kept talking to me, so I kept the set going, stacking on my Latina hunch – she ended up being African, and then told me to hold on while she said something to her friend on the phone in one of those weird African languages, then hung up and suggested going for a walk. I was a bit surprised that she suggested that rather than me having to talk to her some more and suggest it myself, but I acted cool and smiled, then started to walk her towards an area of the park I knew had some good swings on – it was an instadate! I couldn’t believe that happened, and only about 20 mins after the first attempt with the blonde where I thought I would get an instadate, only to have to settle for her number, which ended up being a dead lead. That’s how daygame can be at times!

I made sure to vibe with Ashanti during the short walk towards the swing – she was 21 yrs old, lived on the opposite side of town from me, and was studying to be a nurse. Her family had gone out so she wanted to enjoy the beautiful day in the park, and then she ended up meeting a cool European like me – lucky her! She was a bit shy at first, but I got her to open up a bit more by carrying the convo at first and dropping DHV stories about travel. That got her to open up about her own travel stories, and also about her origin, as she told me more about Africa and how it was there. As we got to the swings, the two barely legal blondes sitting on the next one were staring at us – preselection baby! I made sure to introduce kino slowly and touch her shoulders and then hands, as she had a ring that I wanted to see. Things were going well, so I told her we should take a walk again – the swings area was too crowded for my liking, and I knew an area of the park which was a bit quieter, which would have made it much better for fast escalation.

As I mentioned, Ashanti had a thicc body with a nice big ass, and was pretty curvaceous (I would find out that she was actually a bit too curvaceous for my personal tastes later, but more on that in a bit). So what that meant was pretty much every black guy that walked past us as I was leading her towards the quieter area was staring at her, one even gave me a thumbs up, and some girls even complimented her on her nails (I made sure to fuck with her by saying “Thanks” to them though). This was a great example as to what young, pretty girls in their 20s feel just walking down the street – tons of dudes with no game that stare and/or creepily talk to them. Not a good look for the Midwest or the USA in general, but it is what it is!

As we took a seat again, there were very few people around – perfect for escalation! I had her talking and showing me pics and videos of her country, and I started to hold her hand, move my hands around her things, and going for the kiss. Everything was received well, and as I had my hand around her body I realized something – yeah, Ashanti was thicc, but as an Eastern European, she was a bit thicker than I would have liked. She probably had an extra 5-10 pounds on her, which her dress did a great job covering, and highlighting her big ass as well. I swear girls perform magic on daily basis just with their wardrobes! At that point, I knew I lived 30 mins away, and so did she, but as I escalated and she was receptive, I knew I had probably taken the instadate too far to not go for the close – so I suggested back to my place for a movie, and made it seem like I lived closer than I actually did. I thought she would be receptive, but then after at first seeming to want to go for it, she said she would have to go back home soon to her family, as they were getting back. I kept cool and changed the topic, hoping that I could change her mind in a few mins – despite her being a bit thicker than I like, something about her still turned me on, and I knew I had to go for it and try.

After a bit more making out and grabbing her ass meanwhile, I decided it was time to go for broke and see what happens. I walked with her a bit more and then suggested casually hanging out again, to which she gave the same response and said she is down next time. Deep down I knew I had went for it and felt good, while also having my sixth sense tell me that I would probably never see that girl again after our instadate was over. Would I have been able to get my first SDL if I had better logistics and my place was only a couple mins away walking distance? Probably, but I try not to think about that too much. I ran good game, and at the end it was good enough for an instadate which I didn’t expect, but not enough for the pull. Despite me seeding a few second date ideas and Ashanti actually adding to them and even suggesting a few things we could do herself, my sixth sense was correct – she never responded to my follow-up text after our date was over, and I never saw her again!

Conclusion

A couple of things I want to mention here – game post-Corona can be disheartening, especially for those of you who don’t live in a huge city like I do. Volume is a challenge, but you have to do your best and play the game anyway, and sometimes you will get rewarded with a solid number close/instadata/SDL.

The last thing I wanna mention – the SMP in most of the USA is fucked, and stacked against men. I am not saying this to complain (I have improved my game and SMV a ton the last few years), I am saying this as a European who lives in the US and has seen what the SMP is in places like Eastern Europe, and I am saying it to keep you sane – if you feel that deep down you should be getting better results than you actually are (assuming you game and approach of course), than you are probably right – it is just that the SMP in most of the US is heavily skewed towards women! Think about it – Ashanti was like I said, probably a few pounds overweight by my Eastern European standards. However, all the other guys that walked by didn’t think so, and made sure to stare at her and even give me a thumbs up, even as we were walking together. All a girl has to do in America is to be somewhat pretty (and she was pretty, even if not exactly slim) and wear a tight fitting dress that hides her fat and promotes her curves, and voila – guys are all over that! Would I have approached Ashanti if I was still in Eastern Europe? Maybe, maybe not – the quality is a lot higher over there, and it rewards daygamers with balls a lot more than over here in the Midwest, where 60% of the women are fat.

I wanna finish on a positive note though, and this seems to tie to the previous point – Ashanti told me at one point that when I approached her, she thought I was someone else. A few black guys had tried talking to her a few minutes before I approached her apparently, but doing it in the most creepy of ways – by talking to her as a group and basically catcalling her, at which point she told them no and got on the phone with her friend. She told me she was relieved when she found out it wasn’t them, and once I talked to her a bit she wanted to get to know me a bit so she let her friend go. So the silver lining is – good game still works, even in locations which aren’t ideal for it like the Midwest. And on that note, I have outlined a plan for myself that will enable me to daygame in better locations with higher volume and more beautiful girls. It will take me a bit of time to get all of that settled, but stay tuned! Midwest Daygame will soon be able to game in much better daygame cities consistently if all goes well, and I won’t have to spend so much time hunting for sets around here, getting few sets on most approach days. Until next time – see you guys!

June Lay Reports: The Salvadorean And The 18 Yr Old

“My love is like a red, red rose that’s newly sprung in June”

Robert Burns

Introduction

Hey guys – it has been a while! More than two months since my last post – I have had a couple of busy months! Work has been great but pretty busy, some of my hobbies have picked up in the summer, I have been crushing my fitness goals, and of course, I am still approaching and documenting it on Twitter. However, I have been meaning to write a few posts on my blog as well, but everything else was taking up priority – until now, that is! So without further ado, let’s talk about the two lays I got in June – one was down South when visiting family around the area where InvestorPUA lives, and the other one happened only about a week after that, once I had gotten home. Let’s dive right into the good stuff!

The Salvadorean from Bumble

I had done a daygame session with Investor and had gone home to my family. It was a pretty busy few days at work, and at this point I still had Bumble on my phone left over from quarantine times (I was on no dating apps before the lockdown happened). Whenever I got to a new location, I usually see an uptick in matches, and I had gotten a few as I had arrived in the area my family lived in. I matched with Isabel shortly after I had gotten in town, and noticed she had a soccer jersey on, and started the convo from there. Things were going pretty smoothly as I was able to grab her number, and then over text I seeded the meetup. The banter was there even in the texts – when I teased her I am her favorite European, she asked if she is my favorite Latina, and I told her we will have to see after we have drinks together. I teased her to wear something sexy for me so I recognize her, and she asked me what I found sexy. Everything was pretty smooth sailing from there, and we agreed where to meet up. I suggested one of the breweries I had noticed while daygaming with Investor – she lived around 20 mins from there, and I lived 30 mins so the logistics weren’t great at all. But the girl was eager to meet, and I liked the area Investor lived in, as it was pretty walkable – unlike where my family was located.

I had her meet me in front of a food joint rather than the brewery itself, so that way we can walk there together and talk a bit before going for a beer. I did that on purpose – always good to go together rather than just meet in front of the venue if possible, makes it seem like you have been together for longer once you get inside the first date venue. Also, based on my experience with Latinas, I had a feeling she would give me shit about it, so I was prepared. She was a bit late and had trouble finding parking, and I actually saw her trying to park and guided her from the spot I was standing while waiting. Then, as I guessed, she shit tested me about why I had her meet me there instead of the venue, and I was ready – I teased her about a car driving by hitting her car if she had parked straight in front of the venue, and that I was actually saving her from serious trouble that way. She laughed, and I followed up with how it gives us a chance to talk anyway.

Once we sat outside and had a beer ordered, the eye contact and banter was getting fun. Both of us were in a good mood, and Isabel ended up being a house cleaner, so naturally I teased her about cleaning my place and then asked if she could cook for me. Things were going super well, and at one point we talked about each other’s birthdays – and she said “…or maybe I will be the present” when I asked her what she was buying me. It was on! I teased her that she would jump out of a cake for me while wearing lingerie, and shortly thereafter she told me “If you can guess what color my underwear is, I will show you” after I asked her about it. My mind said “Black!” immediately without thinking, and she smiled shyly while admitting that yeah, that was what she was wearing. I smiled and told her “Don’t show me yet!”

We were almost done with the beers and things were going great, but there was just one problem – where do I bounce her off to? She clearly liked me and was ready to fuck, but where do I pull her to? I had acquired about her logistics and found out that she lived with 3 other girls and one of her had her bf living with them, so that wasn’t an option. My family’s place also wasn’t an option – so that left my car or her car. I told her to come with me and take a walk around the neighborhood so I could have more time to think about it and escalate a bit to get her hornier.

We left the brewery and started walking around, going towards the train station that Investor and I had some luck approaching around. There were a decent amount of people walking by, but I found a couple of spots where we stopped and I started making out with her. Then, I just kept walking with her hand in hand with me, and kept giving her the eye while we kept going. After one of the makeouts, she told me “If you get me horny, it’s not my responsibility what happens”. Also a bit later, I started touching her ass, and she told me “Not here!” while playfully smacking my hand. I kept walking with her while talking, and realized it would have to be done – I hadn’t had sex in a car in years, but if this was gonna happen, it had to be done that way. So I told her let’s go back to my car and talk for a bit in private, and I led her there. No objections from her – Isabel was down for it! We went inside my car and started making out shortly, and I could tell she was super horny by now – only one problem though. There were people walking by as the street I had parked on was kinda busy, and she noticed as I started rubbing her pussy while we were making out and made a comment about it. Fuck!

Not one to panic, I said let’s find another spot. I drove around the area, having no idea where the fuck I could find a good spot, as I didn’t live there and didn’t know the area. The gods smiled upon me though – right away I saw a parking lot that looked empty, and as we pulled in, it was private with only two other cares. It was perfect! Isabel thought I knew that place, I guess my vibe was still confident on the outside which was good. Now it was on – and very shortly, I had her take out my cock and suck it while assuring her that no one was gonna come around, as the parking lot was pretty deserted. She gave me a pretty good blowjob, and then I told her “Let’s hop in the backseat” She asked me “Do you even have a condom?” And I said of course while smiling. She rolled her eyes in a teasing way and without a word, opened her door and went to the backseat to wait for me. This girl was tiny -5 ft 2, around 100 lbs, and that was great – otherwise, the backseat fuck would have been very uncomfortable! We kept going for a bit and as I was fucking her from the top, I looked around to make sure no one was coming around. We were lucky – place was empty, and we could finish while taking as much time as needed. I told her to swallow my cum as I was getting close, and she happily obliged. We then went back to the front seats and talked for a bit, and she asked “So am I your favorite Latina now?” going back to the teasing that happened over text. I smiled and told her “You are in the top 3 for today!” and she laughed and rolled her eyes. She was fun and had a very good sexual vibe and energy. I then dropped her off close to her car, and went home to my family, having to work the next day.

Things to Note

There are a lot of purists online that would say – “Cool story bro, but this was an online lay, so it doesn’t count!” While I am also a big fan of meeting people in person and daygame in particular, this lay would have never happened if I hadn’t been proficient in daygame and had a strong frame. Even over text, I set the right frame with teasing and telling her to dress sexy for me, thus being masculine and leading things forward. Then during the meetup, I escalated verbally by talking about her doing things for me, which led to the birthday gift and then underwear comment. Then on the walk, I escalated physically too.

However, if I didn’t have enough game to recognize this girl came to be fucked and I had to make it happen, none of that would have mattered. A couple of years ago, I would have told myself “She is a nice girl, don’t fuck her in your car! Wait for next date like a cool dude!” And guess what? That next date would have never happened. I had enough calibration this time to realize the situation, and also enough game to lead things to where we could be in my car and in a semi-private location so we can fuck. So yes, even if it is online game, once you get the girl on the date, knowing how to escalate and lead is super important, and could be the difference between a lay and going home empty handed.

The 18 Year Old

Before going down South to visit my family, I had talked online to an 18 year old girl who looked very slim. We exchanged Snapchats, and she ended up liking my body a lot, but then no response when I seeded the date. I let her go, thinking nothing will come out of it. Then, as I went to the beach for Memorial Day and then down South to visit my family, I kept posting DHV stories on my Snap – the beach, eating at restaurants, fireworks, the brewery, etc. Guess who hit me up asking when I am getting back in town? That’s right, the 18 year old! I quickly got her number, and then once I got back I seeded a date on the Thursday. She accepted, and even though her responses got slower like most hot 18 year olds, she showed up at the park I had her meet me in short skirt, and looked great – very slim and taller than I thought, while looking a bit shy. I would find out shortly thereafter how much she wasn’t shy!

I could go on and write about this pull for a while, but it wasn’t as interesting or as much of a good story as the one above with the Salvadorean girl – this girl kept giving me good eye contact and agreeing with me a lot, so I told her to come to my place after 30 mins or so, and she was down for it. We weren’t even in my place for 2 mins and we had already started taking each other’s clothes off. Jane was half black and very sexual – she loved to suck cock, get choked, spanked, facefucked, and generally fucked as rough as possible. She loved older men as she told me afterwards as well, and was going to college this year. She also had just created an OnlyFans and PornHub account (LOL!) So thots gonna thot! She was a fun lay though, and very obedient. I even teased her about not really being 18, and she showed me her ID – definitely just turned 18 in March!

Conclusion

It has been a while since I had a blog post on here, so hopefully you guys enjoyed the lay reports! I also wanna write about an instadate I went on from daygame in the next post, as there were some interesting lessons in there as well. I also want to write about my thoughts on daygame after Corona, and what my impressions are there, as well as a few other things. I have been pretty busy recently, but I will definitely try to write on here more often and share stories, as well as general thoughts about game! To close, I wanna say that 2020 has been a great year for me in many aspects, and it might set me up to where I will be in a great situation to daygame wherever I want in the future. But I will share more about that once it is finalized – super excited to see what happens! I also realize that for many of you, these last 6 months might not have been as great as they were for me. If that is the case, keep your head up – things turn around quicker than you think, think positive and put in the work, and eventually you will succeed!

Field Report: Approaching with InvestorPUA Down South

“Every new friend is a new adventure… the start of more memories.”

Patrick Lindsay

Introduction

I am excited about this post – I will talk about meeting another player from Twitter for the first time, @InvestorPUA. Go ahead and give him a follow if you haven’t already, he is a pretty cool guy who is in the beginning of his pickup journey (he had around ~50 approaches when we met). How did we meet, you ask? We had chatted a bit on Twitter and noticed he mentioned he was down South, and since I have family down there I asked him where he was located. As fate would have it, he lived around 30 mins from where my family was, and I told him I would hit him up next time I am down there. With the Coronavirus, I can work from home anywhere in the world for a while, and I was visiting my family for a couple weeks. I reached out to Investor and we met up one fine Saturday to talk about game and approach some sets together. In this post, I will share our experience with you guys, as well as talk about my thoughts on daygame with a wing.

Thoughts on Winged Daygame

Before meeting Investor, I had done just around 400 daygame sets, mostly solo. I had a wing for a few sets last year, but he couldn’t believe how hard daygame was and how much effort it took and as a beginner he obviously wasn’t seeing much results, so he stopped doing it very quickly. Investor was the first guy from Twitter I met up with, and I have to say the experience didn’t disappoint.

I told Investor he was more advanced than I was when I was at 50 approaches, and I meant it. He seemed to have a cool vibe and we were able to hit it off, talking about different topics with ease and joking around, making sure to keep our vibes up as we were walking around his nice neighborhood trying to find cute girls to talk to. Compared to solo daygame, it seemed like it was way easier to get out of your head and be in a social mood without much approach anxiety when a cute girl was to be approached. At the same time though, we had to share sets, and his city has the same volume problem mine has, so it was an interesting experience. Let’s dive into the approaches!

Approach Time!

We met up on a day that was fairly hot, but not as scorching as the Saturday after that would be. The protests had just begun, so we ran into that too – thankfully it wasn’t too bad, and we joked about joining if we saw any cute girls. We started walking around in his neighborhood, and after about 10 minutes or so we were at a light. A slim blonde walked by me and looked at me, Investor noticed it too and told me about it. I had to make a decision as she crossed to go the other way – I thought about it and said let’s go, I will find another one. Shortly after, Investor saw a cute girl by the rails and went for it, I waited close by and looked at his set to see if I can notice anything to share with him after the set. He came back with her number – great start to our session together! (although he later found out somehow the number wasn’t saved in his contacts, which was unfortunate because it seemed the girl was cool and into him). I was optimistic after the good start, and we went back the other way, chatting about life in general and having fun. A few minutes after, I notice a cute blonde and something inside me feels like I have seen her before, and she looks cute. I chase while Investor was waiting and I open her – it was the same girl that gave me an IOI at the crosswalk! She was open to the approach and my tease about her popping veins, she was super lean. The set was going well but I could tell she wasn’t fully hooking, and did mention something about my friend, I think she remembered seeing me at the light and honestly the fact that I didn’t approach her right away might have hurt me a bit. I tried to close her after a few minutes but she said she wasn’t in that type of space right now, so I let her go – she did joke with me as I walked away and teased her though, so it was a very interesting set.

Even though our journey started in a good way with decent volume, we ran into the same issue I run into often at my current location – lack of cute girls walking around. We walked around for an hour, catching a glimpse of a girl only to see her boyfriend with her, or some other guys. We kept chatting and getting to know each other during that time, and then Investor saw a blonde with a dog he approached (or we thought it was a dog). I waited and saw the girl coming towards me after the set, and then saw Investor hanging back, so after the girl passed me I went towards him. Apparently, the creature was a fox! She imported it from somewhere (I forget where now…), but both of us had a WTF expression on that one. We ran into mediocre girls for a while which neither of us wanted to open, until a two set with a dog walked by. I personally didn’t find them too attractive, but Investor liked one of them as she was slim and tall, so he gave chase. I waited for a bit and considered joining to help him out when he walked back – it was a quick set to nowhere.

Shortly after, I approached a Latina looking girl, only to have a quick blowout, so no harm no foul. At this point, we had been on the streets for a few hours, and both of us were getting worn out from the low volume and the hot sun. As we discovered a new part of town where we could walk, Investor mentioned two blondes behind us. I let them pass and told him if they are hot, I am opening. I looked at them and they were hot, so I looked at him and asked if he wants to join for 2 on 2. He shook his head so I went and opened, and he changed his mind and joined me shortly after my stack. Both blondes were cute and one of them did like my tease, but the other was on her phone, and they told us they were in a hurry for a restaurant reservation, but they thanked us for approaching before they left. I think I had a shot with the hotter one if it was 1 on 1, but that’s how it goes sometimes. We were at it for a bit over 3 hours, and each of us got 3 approaches in, without much to write home about. Still, it was a lot of fun, and the vibe was definitely up the whole time as we got along very well.

My advice for InvestorPUA

Since this happened a few weeks ago, I had some time to think about the experience, and Investor’s game in general. Like I said above, I do think his game at 50 approaches is better than mine when I was at that level, he seems to be going for tougher sets than I was at that point. However, I did notice that whenever we would see a cute girl with an average or below average guy, Investor would always notice and comment on it, and it seemed to bring his vibe down a bit. I think he focused too much on how if a guy like that can have a cute girl, why couldn’t he? My advice to him would be to focus on improving himself, as he doesn’t know the situation of those guys, and why those girls are with them, or how happy those guys are. Looks can be deceiving: it might look like a guy is with a hot girl, but she might be totally running the show and he could be very unhappy, it is hard to tell. The only thing a player can do is be better than yesterday, and improve his game and SMV. Focusing on other guys and wanting what they have leads to a lot of unhappiness, and all of us have to accept where we are in the present and focus on what we have to do to improve and become better.

Of course, his city also seems to have a volume problem, which makes it harder to generate good leads with cute girls, and every set feels a lot more valuable due to the volume issues. There is not much to do about that but look at what you can improve, and ignore what you can’t, as well as not focus on other guys and what they have. If Investor can focus on the process and enjoy the game for what it is without wishing to have what other guys have, I think he has a bright future ahead of him as a player. After all, as Krauser says, there is always a King of Kong. There is always someone better than you, someone who is banging a hotter, tighter, younger pussy than you. All you can do is work hard and improve what matters day by day, and eventually the results will be there!

Conclusion

I enjoyed meeting InvestorPUA, and the first time I met another player from Twitter was a blast. I was humbled when he said my blog inspired him in the beginning, as that was one of the main reasons I started it – to inspire other guys to dive into it and improve their skills with women rather than numb themselves with porn, social media, Netflix and video games. Sometimes change is hard and takes a while to get better, but it is always worth going for what you want, no matter how tough it is. To finish this post, checkout Investor on Twitter and give him a follow!

Visualization and Its Benefits For Daygame

“Proper visualization by the exercise of concentration and willpower enables us to materialize thoughts, not only as dreams or visions in the mental realm but also as experiences in the material realm.”

Paramahansa Yogananda

What Is Visualization?

Visualization is a very polarizing topic. Some people swear by it and credit their success to visualization, while others believe it’s total quackery and nothing beats taking action in the real world. But what is visualization? As this article states “In laymen’s terms, it means recreating all the images, sounds and feelings in your mind surrounding an activity in order to practice in a perfect environment. Just like the small dojo where Morpheus and Neo fight in the movie.” Basically, it means the following – if you want to improve your free throw shooting, you visualize yourself shooting free throws, with the most amount of detail possible. All of us use visualization often – when we remember a certain detail from work or a social event, or when we prepare for the next day and imagine that important meeting we have. Most people, however, can get negative in their visualization, which can lead to negative consequences in real life as well.

What Does The Science Say About Visualization?

Here is what the same article I quoted above says about a free throw shooting experiment: “Australian Psychologist Alan Richardson made a little experiment. He took a group of basketball players, divided them in 3 groups and tested each player’s ability to make free throws.

  • The first group would practice 20 minutes every day.
  • The second would only visualize themselves making free throws, but no real practice was allowed.
  • The third one would not practice or visualize.

The results were astounding. There was significant improvement on the group that only visualized; they were almost as good as the guys who actually practiced.

From this article: “In my meetings with the Soviet researchers in Milan, they discussed government funded athletic programs that integrate sophisticated mental training and rigorous physical training. One study evaluating these intensive programs suggests their potential. Four matched groups of world-class Soviet athletes diligently trained for many hours each week. The training regimens were as follows:

Group I – 100% physical training

Group II – 75% physical training, 25% mental training

Group III – 50% physical training, 50% mental training

Group IV – 25% physical training, 75% mental training

When the four groups were compared shortly before the 1980 Winter Games in Lake Placid, Group IV had shown significantly greater improvement than Group III, with Groups II and I following, in that order.”

Another study in this one: “A study looking at brain patterns in weightlifters found that the patterns activated when a weightlifter lifted hundreds of pounds were similarly activated when they only imagined lifting.  In some cases, research has revealed that mental practices are almost effective as true physical practice, and that doing both is more effective than either alone. For instance, in his study on everyday people, Guang Yue, an exercise psychologist from Cleveland Clinic Foundation in Ohio, compared “people who went to the gym with people who carried out virtual workouts in their heads.” He found a 30% muscle increase in the group who went to the gym. However, the group of participants who conducted mental exercises of the weight training increased muscle strength by almost half as much (13.5%). This average remained for three months following the mental training.”

What Makes Visualization So Powerful?

From “Seeing is Believing” article quoted above: “Brain studies now reveal that thoughts produce the same mental instructions as actions. Mental imagery impacts many cognitive processes in the brain: motor control, attention, perception, planning, and memory. So the brain is getting trained for actual performance during visualization. It’s been found that mental practices can enhance motivation, increase confidence and self-efficacy, improve motor performance, prime your brain for success, and increase states of flow—all relevant to achieving your best life!”

As you may have noted, the studies mentioned above are all done on either athletes, or people who have experience with a skill, like going to the gym. That’s a key aspect of useful visualization – you need to know the task you will be visualizing well enough to be able to recreate it in your mind with as much detail as possible to reap the full benefits of visualization. I’ll give you an example – I have never played the guitar. If I was to visualize playing the guitar, would that be useful for my real-life guitar skills? Probably not, as I wouldn’t even know where to begin and how to make that visualization real. If you ask me to visualize performing a squat or a deadlift however, I have done those movements thousands of times and can visualize getting ready, walking to the bar, and performing the movement with a lot of detail. The more experience you have with something, the more powerful visualization becomes for it. As mentioned above, your brain takes the same mental actions when you are vividly visualizing performing a task as it does when you are actually performing it.

Beliefs have consequences. They influence the actions you take, and every successful person learns to use their mind to their advantage sooner or later. If you are into bodybuilding (and I believe everyone should be, especially if you daygame), then you might have heard of powerlifter Greg Nuckols. Here is an article by Greg called “Unleash Your Inner Superhero” I highly suggest you read the whole thing – go ahead, I will wait for you!

That article reinforces how powerful our minds are, and how we should use our brain to help us achieve success – “Just to rehash the bit about steroids, placebo studies have shown you can get “steroid-like” strength gains from simply thinking you’re on steroids.  In one study, experienced lifters gained 4x the strength in about half the time (100 pounds in 4 weeks, vs. 22 pounds in 7 weeks, across 5 exercises) because they thought they were taking steroids.  In another, national-level powerlifters put an average of 10-12kg (22-26 pounds) on each of their lifts (squat, bench, and deadlift) on the very same day because they thought they were given a fast-acting steroids.  Two week later, when half were told it was a sham, their new strength gains vanished, while those who still thought they were on steroids managed to hit similar lifts again.”

How Does Visualization Apply To Daygame?

I know what you are probably thinking – “this is great, but I read your blog because of daygame and picking up women. How does visualization help me with that?” Like I said above, you need to have a decent amount of experience with the task you are visualizing in order to reap the benefits of visualization. So if you have never approached a girl in your life but think visualizing approaching hot women will be a silver bullet, then you will be wasting your time, as visualization is meant to be a supplement to the physical task done in the real world. If it is not, that just becomes mental masturbation.

However, let’s say that you actually daygame and have a couple of hundreds approaches under your belt (or more). You go out for a daygame session and get a few numbers. Then, there she is: the most beautiful girl you have seen in weeks. Her hair is as bright as the sun, her legs are longer than a flamingo’s, her ass is nice and round like a peach. You take a deep breath… and weasel out of the approach (a weasel is when you talk yourself out of approaching a girl you find attractive for those unfamiliar with the term). How could visualization help here? I have found it’s better for my approaches to be in the moment when I am daygaming. However, once I go home, I write my notes of the approaches in a notebook, and then analyze and write down what I want to improve. This is where visualization can help: close your eyes and return to the moment where you saw the beautiful girl you weaseled on. Use all your senses: remember what she looked like, remember what you heard at the time, what was around you, remember what you smelled. The more vivid, the better. Then visualize yourself walking up to her, strong eye contact, confident body language, deep voice. Visualize opening her, visualize her reaction to you. Words aren’t too important, as your subconscious mind works in emotions and images rather than logic. Visualize how her body opens up to you, visualize how confident you are, visualize the vibe between you two, the sexual tension. Visualize the great eye contact, the eyefucking, the smile on her face.

By correcting your mistakes with visualization, you rewire your subconscious in the way you want it to behave – in this example, you make the correction to approach rather than weasel. If you do this enough times, the next time you see a hot girl you will automatically start walking towards her and approach her. This can be used for any mistakes you find yourself making during your daygame approaches: weak eye contact, bad posture, feminine voice, etc.

Visualizing Daygame During Quarantine

I am writing this blog post during the quarantine, and my state has been under stay at home orders for a few weeks now. Due to pretty much all the venues I usually daygame at being closed (except the grocery store), I haven’t done an approach in over a month now. This is where visualization can help a lot, since most of us are either unable to daygame at all (and miss approaching), or we still try to daygame, but the volume of girls just isn’t there to get a lot of sets in.

Take a few minutes and visualize yourself in the venue you usually approach women (if you approach at a few venues like me, just pick one for each visualization session). What are you wearing? What is the vibe in the venue? What do you see? What do you hear? What do you smell? How do you feel emotionally as you are walking? Try to shut off your brain and imagine all of this as vividly as possible. If you have a few hundred approaches under your belt and daygamed consistently before the quarantine, this shouldn’t be very hard for you to do. Then, focus on yourself, but try to see yourself from outside your body: what is your body language like, how confident are you? Remember, when you visualize you want to see where you want to be, not necessarily where you are with your daygame skillset right now. So imagine yourself walking tall, with a smirk on your face, strong eye contact. Then, visualize your first approach: what does the girl look like? What attracted you to her? How do you walk up to her? How do you stop her? What is your vibe like? How does she react to you? How do you feel as you talk to a woman you are attracted to? Visualize her response, her eye contact, her smile, her feminine energy contrasting your strong masculine vibe. Again: the more detail the better, and the more useful the visualization will be.

You might find this hard at first, and your mind will wander. It is just like meditation: stick to it and before you know it, you will be able to do this for longer than ever and visualize approaching a few girls each time, and each approach will feel different as your brain will get used to visualizing and once your conscious mind shuts off, your subconscious will give you all kinds of details and emotions you never thought possible.

Conclusion

In summary, visualization is a very useful technique to positively train your mind to excel at things you already have experience with in real life. Due to the quarantine, a lot of daygamers are unable to approach in real life, and vivid visualization has been proven to have similar benefits to performing the same activity in real life, given that you have enough experience with it, and you focus on visualizing with as much detail as possible.

Remembrance of Things Past: My Top Lays Before Daygame Part III

“Just as a snake sheds its skin, we must shed our past over and over again.”

Buddha

Intro

This is Part III consisting of my top lays before I started daygaming, and it will be the last part. Here are the links to Part I and Part II. I started daygaming on March 1st 2019, and the two lays described here took place in late 2018 and early 2019, respectively. At this point in my journey, I was already reading a decent amount of the self-improvement posts on the TRP Reddit, and was consciously trying out the different dating advice, trying to figure out which pieces fit with my personality and vibe. Looking back on the lays from Part I and thinking about the lays I will write about here in Part III, it amazes me how far I had come in my journey even before I started daygaming. The lays picked here are similar in a way: both online and both happened fast, but they also differ a bit, and the two girls are also pretty different. Let’s dive into it!

The Chinese Girl From Tinder

I was on a business trip for my work, and I was with a few of my coworkers. We went out for dinner, then another coworker and I went to the hotel gym to do a quick cardio session. We talked and joked around for a bit, then after we were done I went back to my room and was about to take a shower when I decided to check the dating apps I was on, since I got a few notifications about matches. At that point, I hadn’t been with an Asian girl, and up until a couple of years ago I didn’t really find them that attractive. But this girl had caught my eye and she had swiped right on me too: she was 20 years old, brunette and tiny, but seemed to have a nice body with curves in the right places. She responded immediately to my message and after 2-3 messages back and forth, I told her I was here on business and invited her to hang out at my hotel. She responded pretty well and asked me where I was staying, and told me she lived about 10 minutes away. We exchanged numbers and pretty quickly she told me she doesn’t have her car, so I would have to pick her up or call her an Uber. I knew I just had to not fuck it up after that message, and played it cool. I told her to wear something sexy for me, and told her to surprise me after she asked what she should wear. She also asked me if I wear ties, and told me she’s “a slut for men in ties”. I was getting all green lights and she was a definite yes girl, but my escalation was also on point.

She took a quick shower and then gave me her address, and I went to pick her up. I checked the time out of curiosity – from the time we matched to Tinder to the time I picked her up, it was about 70 minutes. She had a cute schoolgirl outfit on – I had a feeling and asked her “You don’t have any underwear, do you?” and she shook her head without saying anything. I liked that a lot – this girl was super horny and ready. The ride back to my hotel was around 10 minutes, and I made sure to grab her body and make out with her at the stop lights. It was around 11 pm on a weekday at that point, so there weren’t that many cars on the road. As soon as we got into the hotel elevator, I pushed her towards the wall and started to make out with her and grab her ass and tits. She was super horny and let out a moan, and was kissing me with a burning passion. This was my first Asian girl, and I was super turned on by her. I discovered she wore a feather butt plug when we got to my room, and that made me even more aroused. She wasn’t as good as I had hoped giving head, but she was very submissive and responded well to choking and spanking. She loved being fucked hard and rough, and had very sensitive little perky tits with surprisingly large nipples for their size. She enjoyed being with me and took my lead while we fucked, which is always a good sign.

After we fucked, I knew I would never see this girl again so we talked about sex in general and exchanged some stories. She told me she is fond of European men – there was a Russian guy that comes in her work and she said “the things I want to do with him!” Apparently, he was 65! Not surprised about it, I dug a bit deeper and she told she likes older guys, and that she is shy about going to bars and clubs, so she hooks up with guys from Tinder a lot, and they are usually older than her, sometimes by a lot. She also told me her slutty school girl outfit she was wearing was bought by some guy, and after teasing her she admitted that guys often buy her sexy outfits. I wasn’t too surprised to hear all that, but it was nice to hear a girl who was super honest about everything we talked about, since she knew she would never see me again.

After I dropped her off back at her place (apparently she lived with her parents during the summer while not in college, and she had told them she was out meeting a friend), I was driving back to my hotel and I got thinking – I had just had sex with a girl a little over an hour after meeting her. I was proud of how far I had come when it comes to escalating with women – I went from almost never escalating unless I was sure they like me to this night, where I went for the lay and made it happen by escalating all the way and making my intentions clear. Yes, this girl was definitely a yes girl for me, but plenty of other guys would probably still have screwed it up. Hell, I would have screwed it up a few years ago probably – by never going for fast sex. I was happy with how far I had progressed, and even though I went to bed around 2 am and had to work early the next morning, I felt great. And you wanna know the funny thing? I don’t remember her name at all…

The Jamaican Girl

I had matched with a girl online – she was black, her profile said she was 21-22, and she looked very slim, a little bit different than black girls I had usually seen. It turned out she was Jamaican, was in my city for work for a few months as a hotel worker, and was bored out of her mind. She suggested we meetup after a few messages as she didn’t know the city or where to go, but I was going out with friends that Friday night, so I told her I would take her out to a good place for a drink on Saturday. She agreed and I stayed until 2 am, so I took the next morning to recover and sleep in and then sent her a message. Miss Jamaica was keen to meet and sent me a couple pics and videos, and her body looked even better than her pics she had online, so I was excited. It turned out she didn’t drive and needed me to pick her up, so I told her to wear something sexy for me and went to pick her up. I had a good feeling about this.

I arrived at her apartment complex and she came out in a dress, looking really good, with her hair made. I could tell she was dressed to fuck, and was pleased to see her curvaceous figure for a girl her size. She got in the car and right away there was chemistry between us, and she gave me a compliment on the way I was dressed so I knew it was on. I was getting turned on by her body and the surprisingly large tits and ass she had for a girl so short, and my brain was already thinking about bringing her back to my place. She told me she is actually 19 when I told her we should go have a drink, and it was raining so my brain already had an idea – let’s go back to my place and hang out and have a drink there. She agreed and we were on our way. It was around 15-20 minute drive so I made sure to keep the convo light, and to her credit she was actually a cool girl so she made it easy. She told me she had a girlfriend in Jamaica after I teased her a bit, and that gave me plenty of things to talk and joke about.

Before too long, we made it to my place and I put some Netflix on. She immediately sat close to me, so it was all looking good. We watched a bit of The Office as I was making my move, and she enjoyed it. We started making out and she was using a lot of tongue and going for it, which is always a good sign. As I was running my hands over her body and we were making out, she got on top of me and we kept making out as I was taking her clothes off. Then, it came: the LMR! It was very weird and unlike anything I had seen before – she stopped kissing me and asked “You would want to see me again, right?” I looked her in the eye and just said “Yes”. And it was over, just like that! We went back to making out, and I got her completely naked. Her boobs and ass were super large considering she was around 5 ft 2 and 110 lbs, but those Jamaican genetics must be good, because she looked great naked, and curvy everywhere a woman should be – I was very attracted as we started fucking. Having said that, she wasn’t that good at sex, and being 19 and bi I don’t think she was very experienced with guys, as she was pretty shy and not open to much, yet she got very turned on when I spanked and choked her. We went for a couple of rounds and then just hung out for a bit more watching Netflix before I dropped her off, since she had to work the next day. She played some Jamaican music for me on the way back, explaining to me what they were saying, since I had absolutely no idea how what I was hearing was English, but apparently it was. I forgot everything she told me about that music genre or what it was called, although I found it fascinating at that time. I never saw her again.

This lay also raised my confidence – this girl was 19, hot, and yet I managed to bring her back to my place right away and we were fucking 45 mins or so after I had first met her. She was very particular about what she liked and spoke with confidence and passion about it, which I appreciated, and she seemed to be smarter than the Chinese girl. But that goes to show you – if a girl is into you and given the right circumstances, pretty much all girls will fuck quick. Even if you think she is smart and usually a good girl. As I was driving home, I felt good that I had made the lay happen but also tired since I was still sleepy after the night out. I went home, ate and then went to sleep early, super tired but also proud of how much progress I had made.

Conclusion

Both the lays described here are with cute girls that were 19-20 and foreign. Both lays happened quickly, even though the girls themselves had different personalities and both seemed shy in their own way. That’s the lesson here: if a girl is into you and you have the balls to escalate and calibrate to her reaction, you can make things happen a lot quicker than you are probably thinking you can. Girls love sex, but society judges them for it, so if you can be discreet and she knows her friends and family will never find out, then all you have to do is make the moves and see how she responds. When I was a virgin, I would have never thought something like that would happen to me, but with confidence and self-improvement all things are possible. Remember – you are the prize, your frame is all there is, and you make things happen as a man!

Remembrance of Things Past: My Top Lays Before Daygame Part II

“Life can only be understood backwards; but it must be lived forwards.”

Soren Kierkegaard

Intro

My last post proved to be quite popular and longer than I thought it would be, so I decided to continue the theme and write this Part II describing some more of my pre-daygame lays. In this post, I will talk about three of my lays before I discovered the Red Pill as well, with the first one coming around 2013, and the other two around 2016-2017.

Stacy, the younger coworker

If you have already read Part I of this series, then you probably remember that I mentioned moving to a different state. I was still going to college and started working at a store in order to earn some living money. There were a lot of pretty girls that worked with me (I will mention a couple of them that I didn’t have sex with in a while) and I got along with all my coworkers, so the job was pretty fun. Stacy had started after I did, and I didn’t know that much about her at first. We barely talked for a bit and besides noticing her long brunette hair, she didn’t make much of an impression on me in the beginning. Eventually, we started flirting a bit as both of us were passing by or eating in the break room. She was a teenager at the time, 17 and working to make some money after school. As time went by, she kept flirting more and more with me, but that was fairly common, so I didn’t pay attention to it, I was more standoffish and kept teasing her. Then one day, I was joking with some customers as they were at the register, and she walked by and mentioned something to me (can’t even remember what it was), I responded, and then she wrote her number on a piece of paper and gave it to me. I remember the customers made a comment about it and I made some type of a joke about it, and Stacy laughed as she was walking away. This was my first hint that something might happen between us, and she had just died her hair blonde, which I must say suited her pretty well.

I did text her soon after, and she was responding enthusiastically. I suggested hanging out and going for a bite to eat, and she responded how much she would love that. Looking back on it, she had made up her mind about what she wanted and I had to make sure I don’t screw it up. But I didn’t know that back then. Long story short, I told her I would pick her up at her parents’ place, and she was excited about going out together. I had just worked out and I hadn’t had sex in a bit at that time, and when I arrived at her place, she told me she needed a couple of minutes so she asked me to come in, and told me her parents were gone. Stacy opened the door for me and I saw her wearing a sexy dress. Now this was something that I hadn’t done before I did it here, but luckily my brain was turned off – I just grabbed her in her dress and started making out with her. Looking back on it, having my brain pretty much off at that point helped me a lot – the move came off with a huge swagger and confidence, and she said something like “Oh my!” if I remember correctly. We never really made it out of that house – we started making out passionately, then she led me to her bedroom, and we ended up having sex a couple of times. After we were done, we talked for a bit, and the more I talked to her, the more I started to feel a weird vibe about her. This girl was 17, but something was telling me she was up to no good and full of shit. She also told me she was texting one of the other girls that worked with us, so I had a hunch that people at work might find out about this. Even though the sex was pretty good, when I went home at the end of the night I had this nagging feeling something was off. I was about to find out what it was pretty soon.

What happened to Stacy, you ask? We never hooked up again, even though she did tell me a couple of times at work that she was wearing vibrating panties that day (naughty girl, that Stacy!) I did try to push for stockroom sex, but that didn’t happen. It seems like none of my coworkers found out about us, or if they did they never mentioned anything about it to me in the time I worked there. Stacy was let go a couple of months after we hooked up after not showing up to work again, and then shortly after I kept hearing things from coworkers about her: apparently, she was hooked on drugs and would skip school and work to hang out with anyone who could hook her up with the good stuff. The more I heard about it, the more I was glad I wore a condom. My gut was right again: there was something off about that girl!

The funny thing is, when I look back on my time working there and the girls, the memory of Stacy isn’t that strong, even though we did hook up. There was another girl there – blonde, pretty tall, beautiful with a great body. The first day she walked in, I was like damn! So I had to introduce myself to her. We kept flirting with each other, and eventually she put up a note as we were talking at her counter. It said “Do you want to be my Valentine?” I had never gotten that before, so you wanna know what I said? I panicked and said I will probably have to work… Here I am, this beautiful girl asking me out, and I said that! Like the guys in Britain would say, total chode move. We never went out, and she is now married with a kid on the way. If I had a bit more game back then (to at least say yes to her Valentine date), who knows what would have happened between us?

There was also another girl – she was Southern, had worked for Hooters, and was a model. She was super shy but I could tell she liked me, and we kept finding excuses to talk to each other. Looking back on it, she made it easy for me to get her number, but all I did at one point was get her Facebook (can’t even remember how, maybe she even gave it to me without me asking. EDIT after writing this paragraph: I did look back through my Messenger profile out of curiosity and saw the first message from 2013 – yeah, she added me on FB, so she was the one that probably asked me for my Facebook. Also, I read through our message history quickly – holy crap, my game sucked. I am disgusted by some of the things I wrote back then. I am also disgusted by how many signals she was giving me on Messenger, and how somehow I escalated and pushed to hang out at the wrong times every single time). I was in Europe for about a month one summer and she kept hitting me up, wanting to talk about my pictures. One thing led to another and she told me she can’t wait for me to be back, so we can drink some wine together. I was pretty optimistic, but when I came back I couldn’t get her out, even though she still seemed to enjoy my attention, and one of my coworkers even told me she was asking about me when I wasn’t there. Looking back on it, my game wasn’t aggressive: I did initiate, but I felt like making a move on coworkers wasn’t good, so I just waited to see what would happen. These girls were definitely giving me signals, but I didn’t go for the number, and I didn’t go for the drink. Now that I think about it, it was super easy to do: there were plenty of times where we got off at night at the same time, and I could have asked both girls for a drink after work. But I didn’t. And that memory of my bad escalation is much stronger than the memory of me hooking up with Stacy. Funny how our minds work sometimes, isn’t it?

Sarah, the Ginger from Tinder

Once I moved to my current location for my job after graduating, I started to use online dating. I was in a relationship for about a year with a girl I met online, and after we broke up I was in a bad state of mind – relationship went downhill fast, and I had blamed myself for it, even thought looking back on it, I should have ended it sooner, and that breakup was actually blessing in disguise. You live and you learn. Shortly after that, I started using online dating again, and I started talking to a ginger girl who seemed to have a nice body on Tinder. Her name was Sarah and she was definitely invested in the early conversation, so I moved the conversation over to Snapchat. She lived around 45 mins away from me, but was always very quick to respond to my Snaps. One thing led to another, and we were trading nudes fairly frequently. We kept chatting and talking about meeting each other, but I was working and she was going to school and working, so I believe it took us a couple of weeks before we had something set up. Throughout that time, we kept sending pics so there was never a reason for me to believe we wouldn’t meet. She told me she really liked rough sex so we talked about how much we are going to have, and I told her I will spank her ass red and use her for my pleasure. She loved it and eventually, we setup a day when she would come over to my place. There was no pretending, and this girl knew exactly what she wanted and what she came over for. She was shorter than me, beautiful long red hair, huge ass for her frame, and perky little tits. I put her over my knee and spanked her hard until I made her ass red, using baby oil to make it shinier. She also loved giving blowjobs and I facefucked her! We also ended up having sex a few times, including once in my shower. She was insatiable and both of us had a great time, and when I sent her home next morning she told me she would come back. Funny story: she told me on the phone her roommate apparently saw how red her ass was when she wearing shorts and asked her about it, and she got shy and made up some story, rather than tell her she hooked up with a guy. Her roommate probably knew though, girls are smart when it comes to shit like that. We kept in touch but I went to Europe for a few weeks in the summer shortly after we met, and then we stopped talking and we never met up again. This hookup did enforce in my mind how much women love being dominated, and I was definitely a different guy from the story described above: I was more comfortable being rough in bed and going after what I want, which I believe was enforced by paying more attention to my workout routine and nutrition with every passing year.

Ciara, the blonde with a huge ass who had a boyfriend

This story is one of my favorites (it happened a couple years ago), because it shows me how far I had come. I went from having girls who were definitely into me making it easy for me and I still managed to screw it up somehow, to being able to intelligently tell that a girl was into me even though she had a boyfriend, and have enough game and confidence to seduce her and kept her attracted to me to the point where she would rather talk to me on the phone than her boyfriend. It’s an interesting story of how we first started talking too, so let’s dive into it!

I was hanging out with a friend of mine who had just bought a house, and we got talking. He was a nice guy and makes good money, but he is the super shy type of guy who never gets laid. He was talking to me about online apps, and told me about a confessions app he was on for a few days and showed it to me. It looked interesting enough and sparked my curiosity so I decided to download it and see what it was about. I read some of the confessions and it was interesting to see what girls would admit: lots of red pill truths on there too. There was a Nearby section, and one girl was saying how she was super mean. I followed up on that and her responses were pretty long, so I was interested to see what she looks like. She did send me a picture and then I sent her a pic of me, since she looked good. She was a blonde with green eyes, looked pretty cute from that initial pic. Then, she asked for a pic of me and as I sent her one, she told me “Well, I have a better pic than that” referring to her original pic. She then send me a couple pics, including one of her licking one of those penis lollipops you buy at Spencers. Alright then, it was on! Shortly after, we transferred to Snap, and before you know it, she sent me a pic of her ass too. I had to do a double take on that: she had a huge white ass, it looked too big for her waist and frame in general. I knew what I had to do. I found out she was 19 about to turn 20, she told me she had a boyfriend but didn’t seem too enthusiastic about it. At one point, we started talking on the phone, and I was able to quickly get things sexual on the phone and she loved it. I found out she was a preacher’s daughter too, and teased her about being a rebel and naughty. Soon after, she kept calling me almost every day, and things kept progressing to where I told her to come down and see me (she lived about 30 mins north).

With work and living with her boyfriend, it took me a while to get her to do that, and she kept saying she was shy, but I could tell by her voice she wanted to do it, she just needed someone to be forceful enough to get her to do it. She also loved when I told her what to do on the phone, and loved to tease me, knowing she would submit to me anyway in the end. Eventually, she made the drive and we went to an amusement park. Apparently, she told her boyfriend she was going with a girlfriend of hers. You probably can figure out what happened – we kept going on rides, she was holding onto me at times, we made out, and then after a couple of hours we went back to my place. I loved spanking that big ass of hers and doing her doggy, and she loved giving me blowjobs and being submissive. She loved being told what to do and obeying, I loved her youthful energy. At one point, her boyfriend called and Ciara answered. For whatever reason, I was super horny at that time, and as she was talking to him, I put my cock in her hand and had her jerk me off as she was on the phone. She was into it and then I told her “You loved it, didn’t you?” when she hung up. She did. I was proud of how long I had come and how sexual I was now, to the point of doing something like that ad hoc with the idea coming to my head at that moment.

She went home that night, but we kept talking on the phone. It went to the point where she would take a walk at night when her boyfriend was playing video games so she could talk to me. She started to open up to me and tell me she loved how I treated her, and how I would tell her what to do: her boyfriend wasn’t like that at all. Her cousin was the only one she told about me, and she loved having that secret. Ciara did come over a few more times to my place, and each time we kept doing more and more, and she would submit to me and do as I say each time. I must say, it’s a glorious experience: having a young sexy teen girl at your apartment, and having her do everything as you say. I think it’s something every guy should experience. That was the first girl that I made call me daddy, and she loved it. I must say I enjoyed that a lot more than I thought too, and I still make younger girls call me that when the mood is all sexual. Ciara would make the drive to see me whenever she could, and one time as we were laying down after sex she even called her boyfriend to tell him she was staying with her cousin – and her cousin, who was apparently a huge slut, would back her on everything. We fucked a lot that night, and I kept thinking how guys really need to see this side of women to know why you should always improve as a men – she was joyful, sexual, submissive, craving me without any pretending. I didn’t know anyone she knew, and no one except her cousin would know about me ever. She loved that anonymity and loved the sexual energy we had together.

What happened to Ciara? She broke up with that boyfriend a couple months after (huge surprise, right?) and started dating someone else, and as we kept talking I could tell she was into the new guy more and wasn’t into me as much, so I backed off a bit for a few months. That worked and she snapped me as soon as they broke up, and she came over again. That was the last time I would end up seeing her though – I discovered she deleted me off Snap when I came back from Europe after a few months had passed. I thought I knew what happened, but a few months later I got curious and called her. She told me she was pregnant and in a serious relationship with a guy, and that she couldn’t talk to me anymore. I understood and expected something like that – she did tell me that she had done things with me she hadn’t done with anyone, and I believed her. It was one of those beautiful sexual experiences that the younger me would never believe could happen. Opposites do attract – and if you as a guy get in touch with your dominant side, then submissive girls will do anything to please you once you get them attracted.

Conclusion

Originally, I intended all of this to be one blog post, but as I wrote about each girl, my mind kept remembering more details and it now looks like I will write a Part III as well. That will focus on some of my lays pre-daygame but after I found out about the Red Pill. Here’s a little preview: I will talk about one of my Tinder lays when I was on a work trip and had sex with a young college girl about 70-80 minutes after I sent her the first message on Tinder. Stay tuned for Part III!