“Don’t let the fear of losing be greater than the excitement of winning.”
Robert Kiyosaki
Bookstore Approach
I was at a bookstore walking around trying to find both a book and a cute girl to approach. I saw a girl who had a bunch of magazines sitting on a bench. She made eye contact as I was walking by and I opened indirectly, asking her if she works there since she had all the magazines. Heather said she was trying to find a good one, and I engaged her asking for a recommendation. Talk shortly shifted towards Europe and travel, and she told me she was an Air Force child , 30 yrs old but she looked younger than that. She told me about her love of Game of Thrones, and it was only natural that I asked for her number since I felt like it was a good set. She asked for mine, and I smiled and said let me just take yours. She gave it to me and I didn’t think much of it at that point, I was happy to have a good set and get some digits.
I ended up texting her the day after, stacking on some of the things we talked about during our chat. I got a reply shortly after, and I thought that was encouraging… until I saw what the response is – “This isn’t Heather, you must have the wrong number” Ouch! My first fake number. For some reason I thought it was hilarious! Why didn’t she just say she didn’t want to give me her number? I would have totally been okay with that. However, I am happy to say that this hasn’t happened since then: gotten a lot of flakes after getting a number, but no fake numbers since this happened.
The young-looking cougar
I was shopping at the grocery store across from the gym one night when I saw a blonde that looked like she was in a good shape. I had to take a closer look. I walked towards her and she turned around, she looked good so I had to go approach her. She loved my direct approach and immediately hooked, asked for my name right away and was very flirty. She told me she was in her late 30’s, which surprised me, she looked way younger. The set was around 10 minutes, and I thought I had it in the bag for sure, but when I asked for a number she said she was kinda seeing someone. I felt like she was interested so I kept talking to her and she shit tested me – “I could be your mother!” I didn’t do too well responding to that, I felt like if I had a bit more experience I could have gotten her number. She was definitely interested but probably seeing someone, and I needed tight game to get her to give me her number. I didn’t have tight game at that point, but it was great to have such a long set with lots of flirting and touching. I remember her saying “You look like you don’t have trouble finding someone!” and looked at my arms, that felt great.
Mall Assistant
I was at the local mall and walked inside a store when I saw a blonde working there with a nice ass in weird looking pants. As I was wondering how to open she engaged me and asked if I need help. I told her I am looking for a gift for my mom, then we talked for a bit. She told me she does underwear and couldn’t help me too much there, so I joked that I am looking for a new bra since my chest is getting bigger after working out so much. She laughed and we then started talking about the gym, and just as I felt like it was going somewhere her older coworker came back. I kept talking to her and engaged her coworker a bit, but she wasn’t going anywhere. I felt like I had to go for broke – I asked for her number. She said she has a boyfriend, and I was on my way. I thought it was a good set and if her coworker wasn’t there I might have gotten her number. That’s the way it goes sometimes!
Summary
At this point, I was almost two thirds done with my first 100 approaches. There were a lot of new experiences for me – this time it ended up being a fake number. I felt like my game was getting better, as I was having longer sets and getting better responses. Every approach felt like a challenge at first because of approach anxiety, but once I was in set and it started going well I was more confident. Sets after the gym were especially good, as the testosterone was kicking in and overriding anything else. Here are the numbers:
- Approaches: 65
- Numbers: 8