“Success is walking from failure to failure with no loss of enthusiasm.”Winston Churchill
“I am married and you’re being…”
I was walking around Walmart while waiting for the tires on my car to be changed (for those of you that have ever done that at a Walmart, you know it takes forever) – but I didn’t seem to mind – I could do a few cold approaches while there! My first approach was a super cute slim blonde who was very receptive at first, but quickly transitioned into telling me she just got out of a relationship yesterday. The emotion in her voice made it clear – she wasn’t making any of this up, she almost broke into tears right there while talking to me. I tried to keep it light hearted while giving her a few words of encouragement, then moved on. I did a couple of other sets later with not much success, and then it happened.
I saw a chick with yoga pants, and for some reason my mind decided to deviate from my standard direct opener and tried improvising. As she was coming towards me, I said “I like your… yoga pants!” No, I am not kidding. She said “Thanks” awkwardly and walked by, and I was thinking to myself “Did you really just say that?” I was kicking myself for that, and thought if only I could get a second chance I could do a lot better. So guess what I did when I saw her around later? That’s right, went straight to her, approached from the back(!) and at that point, she said “I am married and you’re being creepy!” That stung for a second, but then I realized that you know what? She was right. So I made myself a promise: never approach again – if it doesn’t work out the first time, keep moving and find new prospects. In the words of Biggie Smalls – “I don’t chase ’em, I replace ’em!”
A few minutes later, I saw a blonde who was eyeing me up as I walked towards her, so I had to open. She loved the attention but told me right away she was there with someone, still kept talking to me for a bit though. As I walked away from her, I felt like that was a good way to rebound, and I was surprised at how little the previous approach affected my emotional state. I knew what I did wrong and I was determined to get past it.
A couple of days later, I was at the local grocery store when I saw a cute slim brunette. I opened direct and she immediately hooked by asking for my name, my stack about her working out was correct and the conversation flowed from there. She had just moved to the area from down South, and was super talkative, asked a lot of questions about me. The number close was easy and natural, as I walked away from that set I was on a high about how much my game was starting to improve!
If you learn nothing else from this field report, remember this: focus all your energy on making the first time you approach a girl good, and if you don’t or she walks away, don’t approach her again. It’s her loss – focus on approaching the other three billion women you haven’t approached yet. Having said that, I have approached around 200 women since that happened, and it has never happened again. As long as you are socially aware, things like that shouldn’t happen too often, so don’t worry about it too much. Beginners tend to sweat things like this a lot and worry about them, but it’s simply not worth it – it is much more common to make a girl’s day when doing daygame cold approaches.
At this point of my daygame journey, I was a bit over halfway done with my first 100 approaches. My number to approach ratio was exactly 1:8 as you can see below.
- Approaches: 56
- Numbers: 7